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/> The owner replied āOkay, then I donāt think this job is for you thenā My stomach sank immediately and I had to ask the owner to repeat what he just said. His response was exactly the same and he politely told me to finish up at the end of my shift which was at 1am. From that moment it was if something had walked up to me and kicked me fair in the teeth or slapped me across the face. I kindly asked him āwhere does my condition pose a problem at work? The only response I got from him was āWe just donāt think this is the right job for youā Although he said it with a smile, to this day I still canāt work out if he was being sarcastic or compassionate. Thatās something Iām always going to be left wondering about.
I didnāt bother working through till 1am that night, I walked out the bar immediately and didnāt return for 6 months out of fear and shame from other co workers. Today when I go drinking there, the same bar manager will avoid serving me if he can and refuses to acknowledge my presence, now I can only hope this is out of guilt and shame but I highly doubt it.
So many questions have gone unanswered from this event, and to this day Iām yet to find a Manager who can understand who I am and how I work. All employers always say they are always on the lookout for enthusiastic people, yet, me, who I am to a high degree; I show this in my work but havenāt gone very far in my career. I think the biggest killer in this situation was I either divulged too much personal information, or I was just honest and people got intimidated by that but this really made me think twice about opening up to future managerās. From when I got sacked, they left me standing there alone; out in the open and so vulnerable, to this day I want to ask āwhy?ā I was simply looking for a job that I can do and get along with co-workers. I never knew it would be such a mentally straining task.
Although this was going back 6 years ago, in some ways Iām so glad they sacked me when they did. Firstly, they pointed out their true colors through discrimination and secondly, pushing me away from that kind of life that my manager has. Being discriminated against and sacked was certainly emotionally and mentally challenging to deal with, but hereās what came up in brain to get me through this: Itās so sad the kind of lifestyle Paul leads. He runās a gay bar where 90% of the clientele are very false and plastic, constantly serving to their every need and living within the gay bar itself and not exploring the rest of what āreal lifeā has to offer.
Now I am truly thankful that Iām not apart of that. Although Iām perfectly at peace to be gay plus have Aspergerās, Iām glad my life doesnāt focus on a bar where Iām persistently at everyoneās request never venturing outside of the narrow-minded lifestyle that this Manager lives in. To that I am truly thankful as it forced me to look into new places and search for new open doors. Although many questions I want to ask my former boss have gone unanswered, the truth will eventually be answered and until such time, Iāll be ready.
Itās so peculiar that when I act in a strange manner, or present words of eccentric nature, that I can pinpoint when itās the Aspergerās talking or when itās just me. To most people who know me this wouldnāt be a very clear difference but to me it is.
Regardless of whatever job I hold in the future, and however odd my behaviors may appear to be to an employer, I would never feel ashamed to be who I am in the workplace. No matter how much an employer tries to bring me down.
Chapter 11
With each passing day there is always something new that I discover about myself.
In the last six months a new life has developed for me. In particular a life that has become very social where I share very important and valued friendships with a range of different people from many different backgrounds. I am able to laugh and make others laugh, I am able to smile and make others smile, and I am able to be myself and with each passing new day I realize why I am important to this circle of friends.
Just recently I spent a Saturday afternoon at a friends house enjoying the company of six others, wonderful wine, great food and music and above all ā fantastic company. At the time it didnāt occur to me but I realized the next day that during that social event ā not once did I think of Aspergerās or how it would affect me in a social environment.
Because Aspies take comments rather literally and appear to be gullible, this somewhat worked in my favor. My friends would make jokes, and me being me would believe every single word and take their comments literally. When that happens I appear to be āblondeā or āextremely gullibleā but this is a quality my friends like and one friend even mentioned to me that night, that it was something that made me beautiful
To hear a comment from a friend such as those kind words has been stuck in my mind and I now realize that I am important to somebody, that I am a special person and that I can actually make a person laugh. To know that I make somebody feel special gives me the greatest sense of accomplishment and pride, and I am now beginning to wonder if the two words of āAspergerās Syndromeā is just a label or is something real.
I believe Iāve reached the point in my life where I simply donāt care now that I have it. Someone once asked me āIf I wave a magic wand over your head and made the Aspergerās disappear forever would you be happy?ā To answer that question honestly now I would have to say no, I wouldnāt want the Aspergerās to go away. Itās given me too many wonderful qualities that have made me unique, special and intriguing ā itās made who I am so I wouldnāt want that to go away.
Having Aspergerās doesnāt always make life difficult for the individual. Itās certainly made me a strong person both mentally and emotionally. At one stage I was ashamed to have it, but now I am proud. I can safely look at myself in the mirror and stare deep into my own eyes and tell myself āyou are beautifulā. Yet it has taken many years of self development and self discovery to be able to do that.
People often ask what made me write this book and I have to say that explaining to people what Aspergerās is all about can often be a challenge and many people make the assumption that Aspergerās people are usually depressed because of their lack of ability to socialize and communicate, but I hope this book has opened your heart and your mind to what Aspergerās people are all about.
If youāre reading this book and you have been diagnosed with Aspergerās I can only prey that I have made you feel important and embraced in this world, or if your person wanting to know a little more about the condition I hope I have been able to open your heart and your mind about Aspergerās.
To feel proud and content on having Aspergerās has taken a many great years of learning to self-love and discover self respect but as soon as we reach that point in our lives, we know we can venture into this earth with our heads held high against the people who first put us down, and always sleep at night with a smile on our faces knowing we will change the world for the better.
Yes its true we can never make the Aspergerās Syndrome go away, but while itās apart of us we have to embrace it, nurture it and be supportive.
Us Aspies might be seen as different, but we are āThe Opposite of Normalā
āAt the height of any struggle I can fight because I made someone smileā
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I didnāt bother working through till 1am that night, I walked out the bar immediately and didnāt return for 6 months out of fear and shame from other co workers. Today when I go drinking there, the same bar manager will avoid serving me if he can and refuses to acknowledge my presence, now I can only hope this is out of guilt and shame but I highly doubt it.
So many questions have gone unanswered from this event, and to this day Iām yet to find a Manager who can understand who I am and how I work. All employers always say they are always on the lookout for enthusiastic people, yet, me, who I am to a high degree; I show this in my work but havenāt gone very far in my career. I think the biggest killer in this situation was I either divulged too much personal information, or I was just honest and people got intimidated by that but this really made me think twice about opening up to future managerās. From when I got sacked, they left me standing there alone; out in the open and so vulnerable, to this day I want to ask āwhy?ā I was simply looking for a job that I can do and get along with co-workers. I never knew it would be such a mentally straining task.
Although this was going back 6 years ago, in some ways Iām so glad they sacked me when they did. Firstly, they pointed out their true colors through discrimination and secondly, pushing me away from that kind of life that my manager has. Being discriminated against and sacked was certainly emotionally and mentally challenging to deal with, but hereās what came up in brain to get me through this: Itās so sad the kind of lifestyle Paul leads. He runās a gay bar where 90% of the clientele are very false and plastic, constantly serving to their every need and living within the gay bar itself and not exploring the rest of what āreal lifeā has to offer.
Now I am truly thankful that Iām not apart of that. Although Iām perfectly at peace to be gay plus have Aspergerās, Iām glad my life doesnāt focus on a bar where Iām persistently at everyoneās request never venturing outside of the narrow-minded lifestyle that this Manager lives in. To that I am truly thankful as it forced me to look into new places and search for new open doors. Although many questions I want to ask my former boss have gone unanswered, the truth will eventually be answered and until such time, Iāll be ready.
Itās so peculiar that when I act in a strange manner, or present words of eccentric nature, that I can pinpoint when itās the Aspergerās talking or when itās just me. To most people who know me this wouldnāt be a very clear difference but to me it is.
Regardless of whatever job I hold in the future, and however odd my behaviors may appear to be to an employer, I would never feel ashamed to be who I am in the workplace. No matter how much an employer tries to bring me down.
Chapter 11
With each passing day there is always something new that I discover about myself.
In the last six months a new life has developed for me. In particular a life that has become very social where I share very important and valued friendships with a range of different people from many different backgrounds. I am able to laugh and make others laugh, I am able to smile and make others smile, and I am able to be myself and with each passing new day I realize why I am important to this circle of friends.
Just recently I spent a Saturday afternoon at a friends house enjoying the company of six others, wonderful wine, great food and music and above all ā fantastic company. At the time it didnāt occur to me but I realized the next day that during that social event ā not once did I think of Aspergerās or how it would affect me in a social environment.
Because Aspies take comments rather literally and appear to be gullible, this somewhat worked in my favor. My friends would make jokes, and me being me would believe every single word and take their comments literally. When that happens I appear to be āblondeā or āextremely gullibleā but this is a quality my friends like and one friend even mentioned to me that night, that it was something that made me beautiful
To hear a comment from a friend such as those kind words has been stuck in my mind and I now realize that I am important to somebody, that I am a special person and that I can actually make a person laugh. To know that I make somebody feel special gives me the greatest sense of accomplishment and pride, and I am now beginning to wonder if the two words of āAspergerās Syndromeā is just a label or is something real.
I believe Iāve reached the point in my life where I simply donāt care now that I have it. Someone once asked me āIf I wave a magic wand over your head and made the Aspergerās disappear forever would you be happy?ā To answer that question honestly now I would have to say no, I wouldnāt want the Aspergerās to go away. Itās given me too many wonderful qualities that have made me unique, special and intriguing ā itās made who I am so I wouldnāt want that to go away.
Having Aspergerās doesnāt always make life difficult for the individual. Itās certainly made me a strong person both mentally and emotionally. At one stage I was ashamed to have it, but now I am proud. I can safely look at myself in the mirror and stare deep into my own eyes and tell myself āyou are beautifulā. Yet it has taken many years of self development and self discovery to be able to do that.
People often ask what made me write this book and I have to say that explaining to people what Aspergerās is all about can often be a challenge and many people make the assumption that Aspergerās people are usually depressed because of their lack of ability to socialize and communicate, but I hope this book has opened your heart and your mind to what Aspergerās people are all about.
If youāre reading this book and you have been diagnosed with Aspergerās I can only prey that I have made you feel important and embraced in this world, or if your person wanting to know a little more about the condition I hope I have been able to open your heart and your mind about Aspergerās.
To feel proud and content on having Aspergerās has taken a many great years of learning to self-love and discover self respect but as soon as we reach that point in our lives, we know we can venture into this earth with our heads held high against the people who first put us down, and always sleep at night with a smile on our faces knowing we will change the world for the better.
Yes its true we can never make the Aspergerās Syndrome go away, but while itās apart of us we have to embrace it, nurture it and be supportive.
Us Aspies might be seen as different, but we are āThe Opposite of Normalā
āAt the height of any struggle I can fight because I made someone smileā
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