Manners and Social Usages - Mrs John M. E. W. Sherwood (mobile ebook reader TXT) 📗

them round to his guests.

 

In England a very useful little piece of furniture, called a dinner-wagon, is in order. This is a series of open shelves, on which are

placed the extra napkins or serviettes to be used; for in England

the first heavy napkin is taken away, and a more delicate one

brought with the Roman punch, with the game another, and with the

ices still another. On this dinner-wagon are placed all the dessert-plates and the finger-glasses. On the plate which is to serve for

the ice is a gold ice-spoon, and a silver dessert-knife and fork

accompany the finger-bowl and glass plate. This dinner-wagon also

holds the salad-bowl and spoon, of silver, the salad-plates, and the

silver bread-basket, in which should be thin slices of brown bread-and-butter. A china dish in three compartments, with cheese and

butter and biscuits to be passed with the salad, the extra sauces,

the jellies for the meats, the relishes, the radishes and celery,

the olives and the sifted sugar-all things needed as accessaries of

the dinner-table-can be put on this dinner-wagon, or �tagere, as

it is called in France.

 

No table-spoons should be laid on the table, except those to be used

for soup, as the style of serving � la Russe precludes their being

needed; and the extra spoons, cruets, and casters are put on the

sideboard.

 

To wait on a large dinner-party the attendants average one to every

three people, and when only a butler and one footman are kept, it is

necessary to hire additional servants.

 

Previous to the announcement of the dinner, the footman places the

soup-tureens and the soup-plates on the sidetable. As soon as the

oysters are eaten, and the plates removed, the butler begins with

the soup, and sends it round by two footmen, one on each side, each

carrying two plates. Each footman should approach the guests on the

left, so that the right hand may be used for taking the plate. Half

a ladleful of soup is quite enough to serve.

 

Some ladies never allow their butler to do anything but hand the

wine, which he does at the right hand (not the left), asking each

person if he will have Sauterne, dry or sweet champagne, claret,

Burgundy, and so on. But really clever butlers serve the soup,

carve, and pour out the wine as well. An inexperienced servant

should never serve the wine; it must be done briskly and neatly, not

explosively or carelessly. The overfilling of the glass should be

avoided, and servants should be watched, to see that they give

champagne only to those who wish it, and that they do not overfill

glasses for ladies, who rarely drink anything.

 

A large plate-basket or two, for removing dishes and silver that

have been used, are necessary, and should not be forgotten. The

butler rings a bell which communicates with the kitchen when he

requires anything, and after each entr�e or course he thus gives

the signal to the cook to send up another.

 

Hot dinner-plates are prepared when the fish is removed, and on

these hot plates the butler serves all the meats; the guests are

also served with hot plates before the entr�es, except _p�t� de

foie gras_, for which a cold plate is necessary.

 

Some discretion should be shown by the servant who passes the

entr�es. A large table-spoon and fork should be placed on the

dish, and the dish then held low, so that the guest may help himself

easily, the servant standing at his left hand. He should always have

a small napkin over his hand as he passes a dish. A napkin should

also be wrapped around the champagne bottle, as it is often dripping

with moisture from the ice-chest. It is the butler’s duty to make

the salad, which he should do about half an hour before dinner.

There are now so many provocatives of appetite that it would seem as

if we were all, after the manner of Heliogabalus, determined to eat

and die. The best of these is the Roman punch, which, coming after

the heavy roasts, prepares the palate and stomach for the canvasback ducks or other game. Then comes the salad and cheese, then the

ices and sweets, and then cheese savourie or cheese fondu. This

is only toasted cheese, in a very elegant form, and is served in

little silver shells, sometimes as early in the dinner as just after

the oysters, but the favorite time is after the sweets.

 

The dessert is followed by the liqueurs, which should be poured

into very small glasses, and handed by the butler on a small silver

waiter. When the ices are removed, a dessert-plate of glass, with a

finger-bowl, is placed before each person, with two glasses, one for

sherry, the other for claret or Burgundy, and the grapes, peaches,

pears, and other fruits are then passed. After the fruits go round,

the sugarplums and a little dried ginger—a very pleasant conserve

—are passed before the coffee.

 

The hostess makes the sign for retiring, and the dinner breaks up.

The gentlemen are left to wine and cigars, liqueurs and cognac,

and the ladies retire to the drawing-room to chat and take their

coffee.

 

In the selection of the floral decoration for the table the lady of

the house has the final voice. Flowers which have a very heavy

fragrance should not be used. That roses and pinks, violets and

lilacs, are suitable, goes without saying, for they are always

delightful; but the heavy tropical odors of jasmine, orange-blossom,

hyacinth, and tuberose should be avoided. A very pretty decoration

is obtained by using flowers of one color, such as Jacqueminot

roses, or scarlet carnations, which, if placed in the gleaming

crystal glass, produce a very brilliant and beautiful effect.

 

Flowers should not be put on the table until just before dinner is

served, as they are apt to be wilted by the heat and the lights.

 

We have used the English term footman to indicate what is usually

called a waiter in this country. A waiter in England is a hired

hotel-hand, not a private servant.

 

Much taste and ingenuity are expended on the selection of favors for

ladies, and these pretty fancies—bonbonnieres, painted ribbons

and reticules, and fans covered with flowers—add greatly to the

elegance and luxury of our modern dinner-table.

 

A less reasonable conceit is that of having toys—such as imitation

musical instruments, crackers which make an unpleasant detonation,

imitations of negro minstrels, balloons, flags, and pasteboard

lobsters, toads, and insects—presented to each lady. These articles

are neither tasteful nor amusing, and have “no excuse for being”

except that they afford an opportunity for the expenditure of more

money.

 

CHAPTER XXXII. FAVORS AND BONBONNIERES.

 

Truly “the world is very young for its age.” We are never too old to

admire a pretty favor or a tasteful bonbonniere; and, looking back

over the season, we remember, as among the most charming of the

favors, those with flowers painted upon silken banners, with the

owner’s name intertwined. The technical difficulties of painting

upon silk are somewhat conquered, one would think, in looking at the

endless devices composed of satin and painted flowers on the lunch-tables. Little boxes covered with silk, in eight and six sided

forms, with panels let in, on which are painted acorns and oak

leaves, rosebuds or lilies, and always the name or the cipher of the

recipient, are very pretty. The Easter-egg has long been a favorite

offering in silk, satin, plush, and velvet, in covered, egg-shaped

boxes containing bonbons; these, laid in a nest of gold and silver

threads in a cloisonn� basket, afford a very pretty souvenir to

carry home from a luncheon.

 

Menu-holders of delicate gilt-work are also added to the other

favors. These pretty little things sometimes uphold a photograph, or

a porcelain plate on which is painted the lady’s name, and also a

few flowers. The little porcelain cards are not larger than a

visiting-card, and are often very artistic. The famous and familiar

horseshoe, in silver or silver-gilt, holding up the menu-card, is

another pretty favor, and a very nice one to carry home, as it

becomes a penholder when it is put on the writing-table. Wire rests,

shaped like those used for muskets in barracks yards, are also used

for the name and menu-cards. Plateaus, shells, baskets, figurettes,

vases holding flowers, dolphins, Tritons, swan, sea animals (in

crockery), roses which open and disclose the sugarplums, sprays of

coral, and gilt conch-shells, are all pretty, especially when filled

with flowers.

 

Baskets in various styles are often seen. One tied with a broad

ribbon at the side is very useful as a work-basket afterwards.

Openwork baskets, lined with crimson or scarlet or pink or blue

plush, with another lining of silver paper to protect the plums, are

very tasteful. A very pretty basket is one hung between three gilt

handles or poles, and filled with flowers or candies. Silvered and

gilded beetles, or butterflies, fastened on the outside, have a

fanciful effect.

 

Moss-covered trays holding dried grasses and straw, and piles of

chocolates that suggest ammunition, are decorative and effective.

 

Wheelbarrows of tiny size for flowers are a favorite conceit. They

are made of straw-work, entirely gilded, or painted black or brown,

and picked out with gold; or perhaps pale green, with a bordering of

brown. A very pretty one may be made of old cigarbox wood; on one

side a monogram painted in red and gold, on the other a spray of

autumn leaves. Carved-wood barrows fitted with tin inside may hold a

growing plant—stephanotis, hyacinths, ferns, ivy, or any other

hardy plant—and are very pleasing souvenirs.

 

The designs for reticules and ch�telaines are endless. At a very

expensive luncheon, to which twenty-four ladies sat down, a silk

reticule a foot square, filled with Maillard’s confections and

decorated with an exquisitely painted landscape effect, was

presented to each guest. These lovely reticules may be any shape,

and composed of almost any material. A very handsome style is an

eight-sided, melon-shaped bag of black satin, with a decoration of

bunches of scarlet flowers painted or embroidered. Silk braided with

gold, brocade, and plush combined, and Turkish towelling with an

applique� of brilliant color, are all suitable and effective.

 

In the winter a shaded satin muff, in which was hidden a

bonbonniere, was the present that made glad the hearts of twenty-eight ladies. These are easily made in the house, and a plush muff

with a bird’s head is a favorite “favor.”

 

A pair of bellows is a pretty and inexpensive bonbonniere. They

can be bought at the confectioner’s, and are more satisfactory than

when made at home; but if one is ingenious, it is possible, with a

little pasteboard, gilt paper, silk, and glue, to turn out a very

pretty little knickknack of this kind. However, the French do these

things so much better than we do that a lady giving a lunch-party

had better buy all her favors at some wholesale place. There is a

real economy in buying such articles at the wholesale stores, for

the retail dealers double the price.

 

Bronze, iron, and glass are all pressed into the service, and

occasionally we have at a lunch a whole military armament of cannon,

muskets, swords, bronze helmets, whole suits of armor, tazza for

jewellery, miniature cases, inkstands, and powder-boxes, all to hold

a few sugarplums.

 

At a christening party all the favors savor of the nursery—splendid

cradles of flowers, a bassinet of brilliante trimmed with ribbons

for a bonbonniere, powder-boxes, puffs, little socks filled with

sugar instead of little feet, an infant’s cloak standing on end

(really over pasteboard), an infant’s hood, and