Why Do You Want To Change Me? - Santosh Jha (good non fiction books to read txt) 📗

wellness), then it can be safely said that the intrinsic and instinctive energy of ‘narcissism’ within an individual subjectivism of consciousness is what we can refer to as objective and singular bad.

The simple and understandable to all realism for humanity is – we all live in a world that is a ‘totality of multiplicity’ of ‘subjectivism’ and ‘pluralism’. This presents to all, one singular, objective wisdom, that is – “Subjectivism is the core creed, therefore, every individual must be very respectful, compassionate and affectionate towards other’s subjectivism and never allow narcissism about one’s subjective truths to label other’s truths as ‘false’ and ‘bad’.”

Is it this simple! No. If it were, there would have been no ignorant on earth. We all can always know only a part of the truth or wisdom. So is every entity and individual’s position and situation in the cosmos. Real intelligence is in accepting this relativity and subjectivity allowing the part truth to evolve through holism, integration and assimilation. Narcissism is definitive ignorance. The world has loads of it and this energy ensures, we have many losers, few winners.

The higher consciousness within us is one who understands and accepts this life positioning. This super consciousness has the holistic, assimilative and integrative perspective of realisms. He is bereft of the narcissism of subjective consciousness. His real intelligence is his innocence and objectivity; a sincere acceptance of the utility and fruition of every little idea and part truth, which subjective consciousnesses of seven billion people on earth engenders. We all need to change our generic consciousness and evolve it to the stage of specific consciousness, where this innocence stands tall.

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Do Not Be, You Shall Be

The journey from dualism to non-dualism is very tough. Religion as well as science says, it is not amenable and available for everyone. It is only for a few blessed ones! This, they say, is not ordinary but ordained by almighty!

The human mechanism also confirms this. Brain structure and consciousness varies and it decides the ordinary and ordained. However, the wise have also said that this tough facility is available for all, even the most stupid of all. Some wise said, “Both stupid and genius can learn; only those even God cannot make learn, who are in the pride of knowing.”

The wise says, ‘talent is important but what makes a genius is practice not patronage and lineage’. Ustaads, the gurus and wise have said, ‘the real master is perseverance of practice’. There is a famous visual metaphor said in this regard by India’s most respected poet saint, Kabir. He said, ‘The feeble rope, which incessantly goes up and down with a bucket in the well, makes a deep mark even on the stone walls of the well.’ This metaphor suggests, even the most stupid can qualify to be a genius, if efforts are sustained and persevered with.

Arriving is all about mind training to lead the consciousness to a certain positioning or situationalism of complete reception. As this happens, the dualism goes away, as it is then clear that what the greats have been talking about the wisdom may seem contradictory but actually, both the conflicting options, though looking mutually exclusive, are and remain simultaneously available. Check this:

God says, ‘Stop seeing me, you shall see’. God says, ‘Stop searching me, you shall find’. Now, there are semantic conflations also in these words, apart from the dualism, which is purely a mind and consciousness positioning. One feels the dualism in the lines as it says to ‘stop’ doing something for its ‘fruition’. We must understand why there is no dualism in it.

Semantically, the words tell you that actually, you are caught between two simultaneous actions and that is why you do not arrive at either of the two. The lack of linearity and singular focus sways you away from fruition. When you are seeing or searching, you are amid two actions – the effort of seeing and searching and second is the act of seeing and searching. In addition, you are not clear as what you are wanting to see or search because, the dualism itself throws at you so many probable options of seeing realisms.

From the perspective of mind mechanism, as science tells us, the same is happening. You are caught amid two dimensions. The mechanism tells us that when we are in a search or looking, there are two things happening to us – first the search and second the seeing. We see so many things and naturally the brain processes all colors and shapes we see and throws to us multiple options for value-summation or what we call our subjective decision as, what we find and see is actually, what we think we are looking for.

The prescription of wisdom is also susceptible to the conflation of dualism and usually, people land on the wrong and transitional side of the wisdom, which actually shows us the absolute perspective through a transitional shade of consciousness. It may look like the prescription wanting us to opt for an action or a non-action. Actually, it is not. Wisdom just says to be aware of both the simultaneous forces and use them to arrive.

You and me cannot find or search a God or a love. It is there in whatever shape, color or positioning irrespective of our semantic and mental confusion about what and how God and love is. We get God and love not by finding or searching for it but by stopping doing it as, this leads us to be assimilated in God and Love, as both are in everything and everywhere. Here dualism stops and non-dualism is arrived at.

What wise tell us is – the dualism and conflict is not in the object or subject of our desires, rather it is within us. If we are looking for something, we are split and conflicted. Suppose, in a crowd, you get separated from your friend. You start searching him or her, looking out everywhere. You might see so many people and hundreds of faces. Finally, among those thousands of people, you find your friend and become happy.

If we ask you to tell about those people you saw while looking for your friend among the crowd; you shall be troubled. It is because, while you searched, your primary energy was to ‘reject’ those thousands, who did not look like your friend. Your mind was fixed on searching something, which your mind already had fixed.

However, when you are searching for something, which you do not know or do not have an image of in your conscious mind, like your friend’s face; think what trouble and dualism you shall face. You are then searching something but how can you. It is neither tangible nor known to you. You can only search when you have an image in your mind. This is our mechanism, this is our limitation as human.

So, what your mind unconsciously does is create an imaginary or virtual ‘face and body’ of something you are searching for. Interestingly, your conscious self shall be unaware of this unconscious ‘choice’ made by your mind.

When we search for God and love; or larger wellness and goodness ideas, we do not have a firsthand info or face of God, love and goodness. What our mystical mind does is create unconsciously a virtual imagery of them. So, when we search for God, love and goodness, we are actually not looking for the ‘real’ ones, rather searching this ‘virtual’ or ‘imagined’ ones.

The wise tell us, this creates a dualism and conflict within. Love, God, goodness are what they are and not what your ‘virtual imagery’ wants to see them as. That is why, we all remain searching for them in the crowd of life and they remain ‘missing’ and we remain ‘lost’.

The lover and faithful must understand where and what love and divinity is. If he or she thinks that a true love is only that which his or her ‘virtual imagery’ says and accepts, then she is actually denying and drifting away from love and divinity. Love is not in seeing and searching what you think is there for you. It is where it is irrespective of you and your love. Stop doing it and you get love. Same with faith.

Of course, the blame is not on the lovers. The cultured mind and the mechanism of brain have to do with it. Things become very difficult for a mind after the age of 25 to attune and align itself towards a completely new and alien value and belief system, against the populist benchmarks. The imagery already in mind, prompts us to create a ‘virtual imagery’ of all goodness and this virtual thing is the product of what cultural and subjective elements we have stored in our minds. That is why; goodness has to be ingrained in early childhood and adolescent.

Stop ‘doing’ it to get ‘love’ is not easy. This comes from riyaaz; painful and persevered practice. In almost all aspects of your pursuit and endeavors, this dualism would attract you to make you adrift. You shall have to practice hard to understand the undercurrent of dualism and then use the energy of this dualism in arriving at the non-dualism.

This discerning artistry is enacted by our higher consciousness. This consciousness never rejects dualism and conflicts. Rather, it accepts the dualism in its entirety and multidimensionality. It can see both the conscious and subconscious layers of mind presenting the conflict. It understands the nuances of the same mind ‘projecting’ a virtual imagery and that of the conscious mind wanting the real one. This however needs practice, like all arts.

Sadly enough, people do not have either the mental willingness or strength to accept the utility and fruition of this painful and prolong process of practice. That is why the non-dualism is so rare. Dualism triumphs in this world as it is easy and amenable to average brain and resolve. There have always been greats who have told ‘right’ things to humanity. However, it is always met with disbelieve and distrust.

The non-dualistic wisdom often gets the label of it being debauch and hypocritical as most people cannot understand the semantic and mental conflation of the dualism. Secondly, even if they get close to it, they would seldom go beyond a lover’s ‘preference’ for ‘virtual imagery’ of subjective goodness.

Usually, the lover would be happy that he or she has a lover who accepts him or her blindly and then, she happily ‘stops’ there. The growth and evolution in love stops too as there is a stubbornness to stick to their preferred ‘virtual imagery’. Moreover, as his or her ingenuity would prompt, he or she would use all the wisdom in the defense of his or her ‘preferred’ action.

It is very crucial here to understand and accept that it is not the ‘ignorance’, which is the worst enemy of humanity. There is nothing called ‘ignorance’ in this world full of humans. What we have everywhere and loads of it is ‘subjective intelligence’. ‘Nothing’ is not such a bad proposition at all. What is calamitous for humanity is ‘subjective something’; the personalized ‘wisdom’, and the artistry of ingenuity to prove it as the cosmic and global wisdom for all. This needs to change. We all need to change, not for attaining anything external but our own life-living wellness and personal excellence.

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Accept My Gratitude

Writing something is a daunting task as there is always a lurking apprehension of it not being in utility for some readers. I however feel at ease, because of my faith in magnanimity of readers. I am happily sure; you shall forgive if my efforts could not be up to your expectations. Thank you so much for being with me and allowing me to share with you. Wish you an empowered life; with the prosperity of the consciousness.

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About The Author

People say, what conspire to make you what you finally become are always behind the veil of intangibility. Someone called it ‘Intangible-Affectors’. Inquisitiveness was