Life Without Conflict - Dada Bhagwan (13 ebook reader .txt) 📗

children can only be resolved through understanding. It is primarily the parents who must understand. Excessive attachment will result in a lot of friction and suffering, creating more problems for both the parties involved. You have to fulfill all of your worldly obligations, but by no means are you to perpetuate the cycle of attachment. Dadashri has shed light over parent-children interactions and given us tremendous understanding and insight into this topic. This in turn has improved tremendously the quality of the family life .

Despite the love that exists between husbands and wives, inner conflicts and overt quarrels occur between the two. They are so trapped by their need for security in each other that despite their internal conflicts and quarrels that they continue to live as husband and wife. Through a very informal and jovial approach, Dadashri gives us ways by which husband and wife can attain ideal interactions with each other.

Dadashri also gives us the keys to prevent conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, master and servant, a business owner and his customers, and between business partners.

Many aspirants who seek true knowledge do not attain it because they give importance only to the soul, and disregard their worldly life. This one-sided approach renders their knowledge infertile. Real Gnanis, like Dadashri have traversed the spiritual realms by maintaining a parallel between both the worldly and spiritual lives. He has given thousands of seekers the ultimate understanding of matters regarding both the worldly and the spiritual life, and within them, instilled tremendous awareness of the two.

In this short compilation, we have put together examples, which have come through the power of Dadashri’s speech, whereby we can live an ideal life. Those seeking a more detailed and in depth solution for the worldly life should refer to the long version of Dadashri’s books. Books such as, ‘Generation Gap,’ ‘Harmony in Marriage,’ ‘Speech in Worldly Interactions,’ ‘Money in Worldly Interactions,’ etc., are books which undoubtedly will bring peace to one’s life.

- Dr. Niruben Amin

Life Without Conflict

[1] The Art of Living

Life Without a Goal

What is the goal of this life? Do you understand it? Surely, there has to be some goal for this life. A person is born, grows old and is later is carted away to the funeral pyre. The name that was given to him at the time of birth is taken away at that time. The{ are quick to give you a name the moment you are born, to facilitate the worldly interactions and dealings. This is just like naming characters in a play, buv once the play is over, the name is no more. Just as tje name ‘Brahtruhari’ is given to the king in the drama, the name no longer exists once the play is over. Similarly, you are given a name to carry out your daily living and under this name you acquire your wealth, your hooe, your cars, and money etc. but upon your death it is all taken away. People go through life and then thgy die. Therefore, these two words, ‘life’ and ‘death’ mean that every event is a passing circumstance. What is the goal of life? Is it for personal enjoyment, or to serve humankind? Is life for marriage and taking care of your family? Marriage is mandatory and preordained. A person cannot get married if he is not destined to. However, do people not get married even if they do not want to? This is because marriage is preordained for them. Is making a name for yourself the ultimate goal of life? Women such as Sita, Lord Ramas’s wife, have made their mark in this world. Their fame stayed here but what did they take with them to their next life? They took

their mistakes and entanglements (causes; karmas).

Whether you want liberation (moksha) or not, at least come here and obtain clarification of all your entanglements. You will find all the solutions here. Lawyers will charge you a fee to solve your worldly problems, whereas the solution you get here is priceless. You cannot put a price on this solution. Life is full of entanglements. You are not the only one with entanglements; the whole world has them. The world is a puzzle itself.

Religion comes after true understanding. First you have to learn the art of living. One has to become certified in parenting, before getting married. Life is like an engine but it is pointless to keep putting gas in the engine and running it without getting any useful work out of it. There has to be a goal in life. An engine will continue to run in vain but you have to get some work out of it. Unfortunately people live their entire lives, with nothing to show for it, without an achievement. Rather than accomplishments, they create entanglements, which carry forward to their next life.

People’s lives have broken down; they have no clue as to what they are living for. They have no awareness about the reason for a birth in the human form. They are not aware that there is a purpose of a human life. What is the goal of the human life? The birth as a human being gives one the ability to choose any future life form, or the choice to attain liberation from further births. No one is aware of the essence of human birth and that is why one continues to wander life after life.

Who Will Teach Us The Art of Living?

Today people are unaware of what is beneficial and harmful in life. The ones, who do have such awareness, have made adjustments according to their intellect (buddhi). Their

awareness is worldly in nature because it is for attaining only worldly happiness. In reality, even that is not correct. Correctness comes only when one learns the art of living. One becomes a doctor or a lawyer and yet he does not learn anything about the art of living. He learns and masters all kinds of arts except for the art of living.

This art is learnt by approaching the one who is living his life well. Ask such a person to teach you the art of living. Ask him how you should conduct your life; only then will you learn that art. You need to seek out someone who has mastered this art. Unfortunately, no one seems to understand the need to do so. They have totally discarded the importance of the art of living, haven’t they? Those living around me will learn this art. However, I cannot say that absolutely no one in this world knows this art.

If a person learns the art of living completely, his life will be easy but he will definitely need religion along with it. Religion is the base for the art of living and it is a necessity. By religion, here I am referring to the code of conduct as prescribed by God. One need not pursue the path of liberation. You must understand the prescribed commands of whomever you have faith in, be it Lord Mahavir, Lord Krishna or any other God. If you cannot practice all of their directives, then at least practice some. Now if celibacy is one of their directives and you get married, then that would be contradicting their directives. In reality there is no contradiction; all they are saying is that you should adjust to the commandments to the best of your ability. Just because you are not able practice two of their commandments, does that mean you discard them all? What do you think? If you are able to abide by only two of their commandments, it is still more than enough.

It is equally important for people to receive a high level

of relative religion (vyavahaar dharma). This is the code of conduct for life’s daily interactions. This is the art of living. You cannot learn this art through penance, fasting or renunciation of the worldly life. Fast if you develop problems with indigestion.

He who masters the art of living acquires the whole vyavahar dharma, but the real religion, the knowledge of the Self ( Atma dharma, nischaya dharma) will be attained by the one who comes into this world with prior spiritual development. In the Akram path (the short-cut, step-less path to Self-realization), one attains the Self through the grace of the Gnani Purush. The Gnani Purush has the capacity to grace one with both infinite knowledge and infinite worldly wisdom; both are so wonderful that they abolish all kinds of miseries.

Understanding That Leads to Suffering in Life

This Gnan is such that it repairs and corrects, and people are such that they ruin and make wrong of everything that is right. They do so because they have the wrong understanding; otherwise there is no suffering in India whatsoever. All suffering is due to lack of right understanding. People blame the government or God for their suffering. Alas people have only learnt to disgrace and defame others.

If a person accidentally ingests poison, will the poison spare him?

Questioner : No it would not.

Dadashri : Why not? He drank it accidentally. Since he did not drink it on purpose, will the poison not let him escape?

Questioner : No, he cannot escape the effect of the poison.

Dadashri : So who kills him? It is the poison that kills him, not God. God does not give suffering or anything else,

whatever is done, is done through the body complex (pudgal). It is the body complex that gives pain and unhappiness. Is poison also not a body complex? Do we not experience its effect? People of the current time cycle are really the product of their negative tendencies from their past lives. People of the era of previous time cycle used to make do without food and clothes, but people of today, despite having everything, create nothing but conflict. If a man has outstanding taxes, he fears the tax officer and in turn his wife fears him because due to the stress, he mistreats her.

A person, who has all the four necessities of life and yet creates conflict, is nothing but a fool. Does he or does he not get food on time? It does not matter whether the food is cooked in oil or not, but at least he gets his food on time, does he not? Does he also not get his cup of tea on time; whether it is once or twice a day, does he not at least get tea or something to drink? Does he not have clothes to wear? Does he not have a roof over his head? He should be thankful for all this, especially on cold winters days! Therefore, when people complain, in spite of having these basic four necessities, they should be locked up in prison! In spite of having all the four necessities, if a person is still unhappy, then he should get married. You cannot persecute anyone for wanting to get married. Along with these four necessities, marriage is also a necessary component. You cannot say no to anyone who is of age and wants to get married. But so many of those who get married, break their marriages, they wander alone, and invite suffering. What kind of people are these, who get married then break up their marriages? When a person does not have the four or five basic necessities for living, it is understood that he is suffering. Everything else is not really sufferings, but rather difficulties or inconveniences. People however spend their entire day being miserable; all day long they imagine