Best Friends - Xicano Sol (psychology books to read .TXT) 📗

“I know he had an on-going sexual relationship with my best friend, but it just didn’t matter to me. It’s not like I planned it, but when the opportunity presented itself I went for it. Now the guy I hooked up with isn't returning my calls and I’ve lost my best friend too.” He looked down and you could feel a sense of shame and guilt enter the room. I asked him how he felt about what happened and he stated that his best friend was over-reacting… “It’s not like they were in a relationship, they were just sex partners. I don’t see what the big deal is.”

I asked him if he ever considered that this guy was more than just a sex partner to his best friend and maybe that’s why his feelings were hurt. He said “maybe” and just looked down again as the energy in the room began to shift towards anger. “My best friend has always had guys to hook-up with and never thought about the lack of attention I get at the clubs. Sometimes I would think certain guys were attractive and they would end up hooking up with my best friend. So now he knows what it feels like.” He took a breath and I could tell he heard the angst in his voice and just then he started to understand his own actions.

He went on to say that he’s never been able to keep a best friend because similar situations had occurred in the past. He realized that his hook-ups had nothing to do with opportunity but rather his own insecurities and lack of confidence. In closing he said, “I’m going to call my best friend and apologize for what I’ve done to our friendship. I don’t think he’s going to want to be friends anymore, but I still think it’s something I need to do.”

Publication Date: 01-01-2012

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