Simply Feminine � Surprising Insights from Men by Wonderly, Morgan (best e ink reader for manga .txt) 📗

out to lunch or dinner with girlfriends to celebrate birthdays or baby showers. Have you ever seen a bunch of guys doing a birthday lunch for another man?

Men Are Decisive

The more masculine energy a man has, the more decisive he will be. He knows what he wants relatively quickly, and once he makes up his mind, he sets out to accomplish it. He’s cool under pressure, a take-charge kind of guy. He’s a man with a plan.

Feminine energy, on the other hand, is generally more indecisive, even capricious at times. We take more time making a decision, and we easily change our minds. As the old saying goes, “It’s a woman’s prerogative to change her mind.” Think back to times ordering at a restaurant. Personally, it takes me a while to decide. I may even ask the wait staff what they recommend before making up my mind.

What’s great about a man’s decisiveness is that we know where he stands, which gives us a feeling of security when we’re with him. He doesn’t flip-flop. We can count on him because we know he’s the captain of his destiny.

Men Are Protectors

A man once said to me, “Do you know why men don’t have as many friends as women do? It’s because we’re too busy protecting and providing for women, most especially the one special woman.”

Mother Nature designed man with an instinctive drive to protect females and children. It’s as though Mother Nature whispered in his ear, “Protect her! Protect her!” As a Cherokee proverb says, “A man’s highest calling is to protect woman so she is free to walk the earth unharmed.”

We see this protectiveness in nearly all animal species. The mother protects her babies while the male protects both the mother and their offspring, even to his death if necessary. Subconsciously, men value women higher than themselves. That aspect alone should help us appreciate men more.

Today, men hear women say, “I don’t need a man to protect me.” Women have no idea what those words do to a man’s soul. Men need to be admired for being masculine—and that includes protecting women.

Safety and security sit right at the top of our needs as feminine women. It is always in the back of our minds when we’re driving alone at night, when we’re lost in a questionable neighborhood, or when we’re home alone and hear a strange noise outside our window in the middle of the night. We have traditionally looked to men for our safety. Men love to provide security for women because it makes them feel purposeful, needed, and masculine.

Good men want to be protective because doing so gives them great satisfaction. They don’t need us to protect them in return. They don’t need our money. They don’t need our gifts. What they need from us is admiration, appreciation, and affection.

Men Are Providers

Men have an instinctual need to provide for their women and families. When a man is in love with a woman, he will provide and care for her. If he can’t offer this, he feels like a failure.

Mother Nature programmed this desire to provide into man’s biological design. She created men in this way to provide for the life-giving females. They do this both through their physical strength and their focus and drive to succeed.

Mother Nature also gave men great need for women so that they would be motivated to care and provide for the ones who give life. Men were given specific skills and drives that enable them to be excellent providers. The distinctive strengths of men and women work in perfect concert together.

As women, we don’t have the same instinctual drive to provide and care for men because it’s not in our biological makeup. Our inborn need is to care for and protect our children. Men’s desire to provide for us works in much the same way.

For many women, “empty-nest syndrome” can be a real and painful experience; they often feel unneeded when their children leave home. Men feel a similar emptiness when we reject or show a lack of appreciation for their providing.

When men feel appreciated, they willingly provide for our needs to the best of their ability. Good men can be exceptionally generous, especially if we give them what they need: admiration for being masculine men and affection for being our men.

Men Are Chivalrous

Being chivalrous with women is a way for men to honor our femininity. Unfortunately, men have been discouraged by today’s society from practicing these kindly masculine gestures. Some women misconstrue these chivalrous acts, such as opening doors or pulling out chairs, as implying that they are weak or helpless, and they feel offended or even angry. But men don’t show chivalry because they think we’re weak or incapable. They do it out of respect. They do it to be gentlemen. They do it to honor and protect. When a man accompanying a woman walks on the outside of the sidewalk or road to protect her from traffic, he’s simply showing good manners by thinking of her well-being before his own. What’s not to like about that?

Many men say they feel apprehensive when they are chivalrous and are met with hostility or lack of appreciation for their efforts. Women should view men’s chivalry as precious. We ought to show men appreciation for their graciousness so that it doesn’t become a lost art.

Men Are Rescuers

Due to their natural inclination to be fixers and problem solvers, men are driven to rescue women from danger. Men will often comment in a humorous way that they can’t resist rescuing a “damsel in distress.” If they see a problem, they look for a solution. Rescuing us when we’re in trouble is a challenge they welcome. That’s why we can almost always count on a man to stop and help us if our car breaks down on the road.

We often think we will be a burden if we ask men to assist us, such as when we have trouble lifting our heavy luggage into the overhead bin on