Simply Feminine � Surprising Insights from Men by Wonderly, Morgan (best e ink reader for manga .txt) 📗

Do you listen to your intuition? How often? Do you trust it? Why or why not? Practice listening to your inner voice daily and journal what it says to you.

Chapter 10

Be “Simply Feminine” in Seven Steps

“The eternal feminine draws us upward...”

– Goethe’s Faust

Seven Steps to Attract Men with Your Feminine Energy

If you’re ready to unlock the beautiful femininity within you that men adore, I invite you to participate in a seven-step process that will help you to achieve that goal. Over the course of researching this book, I have personally worked on each of these steps myself. Although I saw results in a surprisingly short amount of time, I continue to refine these feminine attributes. The more I learn, the more joy and freedom I have in my life.

I encourage you to create a list of these seven steps and put it on your bathroom mirror to remind yourself of this process. Read and practice these steps often until they feel natural to you. With practice and the shift in perspective doing this will bring, you will increasingly enhance your femininity and attractiveness to men.

I’m certain that by implementing these seven steps with earnest intention and the right mindset, you will feel yourself rediscovering your femininity. You will notice a shift in men as they respond to you in a more positive and attentive way.

Here are the seven steps:

1. Admire the Masculine Gifts

Step one is the foundation for all the remaining six steps. Appreciating and admiring the male gender for the many gifts they bring to females is essential. For a reminder, refer back to Chapter 3: Understanding the Nature of Men.

To be more attractive to men, it is vital to develop a positive, open-minded, and appreciative mindset toward them in general. I’m not saying you need to love all men. You surely won’t. But the more you admire the men around you for their masculine gifts, the more you will reap the rewards from your relationships with them. Reframing your perception of men so that you trust and admire them will be the number-one step and the foundation for making this process work.

Contemplate the gifts masculinity offers you: strength, honor, decisiveness, and protectiveness. Imagine for a moment what life would be like if no men existed in the world. Imagine they all left for a year’s sabbatical. They wouldn’t be around to repair the roads when they’re in disrepair. Think of your car’s alignment driving over those potholes. They wouldn’t be here to align your car either. They wouldn’t be around to work on the power lines when the electricity goes out in the middle of the night in subzero weather. They wouldn’t be around to plow the roads after a winter snowstorm. There wouldn’t be men around to fish the oceans or truck the crops to the grocery stores or the many thousand other things that we forget they do. Sure, some women could do these jobs, but really, how many of us want to? In short, this world would be a dismal place without men.

If this reframing of men seems difficult due to past experiences, perhaps some deeper work will be required. If need be, consult a professional for help. I’ve personally had good results with NLP, hypnosis, and tapping (emotional freedom technique) for quickly moving through old wounds, as I have had my share.

Personal-development courses that focus on understanding men can produce profound shifts in perspective for women. The biggest shift in my attitude toward men happened in 2003 when I took Alison Armstrong’s course “Celebrating Men, Satisfying Women” (now called “The Queen’s Code”). For a transformation in how you perceive men, I cannot recommend her courses highly enough. They will change the way you view men forever.

2. Love Your Femininity

Step two is to embrace everything about being a feminine woman. Men tell me that there’s nothing more attractive than a woman who loves being feminine.

Love your softness. Enjoy your voice. Feel the joy in your laughter. Adore your gentleness. Embrace your variety of feelings. Show your curves. Worship your bodily form. Delight in your lighthearted nature. Appreciate your warmth. Acknowledge your inner beauty. Value your compassion. Cherish your empathy for others. Practice eye contact. Experience your sensuality.

Meditate on each of these qualities and any other feminine qualities you’d like to add and ask yourself if you truly value them. Be honest. If you don’t value that quality in yourself, ask why not? Then ask, what would it take to value this quality?

Value the femininity you see in other women. Next time you’re out running errands, take a look at other women. Do you notice their femininity? What is it about them that makes them attractive? Perhaps it’s their graceful walk, or the way they laugh, or their lovely smile, or the way they dress, or the beauty in their face.

Acknowledge these women. Except between girlfriends, women rarely get compliments from other women, especially women they don’t know. Tell them how beautiful and feminine they are. Trust me, I promise they will appreciate it. You might even make their day. Observing other women is a wonderful way to learn how to be more feminine too. These women can become your role models.

3. Be Authentic

When you meet a man you like, or with a man already in your life, be willing to engage him by sharing your authentic nature and talking about the things that mean the most to you. For instance, share some of your innermost joys and passions with him. Men do want to hear about the ideas that light you up and bring you the most joy and fulfillment in your life. Discuss your dreams, talents, travels, hobbies, family, friends, philanthropy, books, music, movies, gardening, and cooking. Opening yourself up at this level may require a little vulnerability on your part, but this kind of vulnerability is very attractive to a man.

So go ahead and express your excitement to him.