Expectations Of Life - Mpumelelo Sihlali, Charlie James, African King, Mpumih Dunga (great book club books .txt) 📗

1. Love

*Adore
*Cherish
*Care

-Loving another person is very consequential. You are wondering
if you are loved or not. That question comes after you realise that
you are deeply in love with that particular person. Loving a person
hard only leads to being hurt. This is because you show him/her that
you are in love and he/she will take advantage of that and use you till
he/she meets someone better than you. That is not love, its called
pretedence. They pretend to be in love with you.
-Love can be a whole different thing, it can bring hope to those who
have given up in it. It brings out the best in a person but the feeling of being
in love and being loved is different. Being in love needs you both to be
attached together. Even if you don't love that person but after spending
more time together you will be love. Love needs attention and it also needs
your time, if you can give love that it will definitley reward you back with
happiness. For you to be safe in love, you just need to make sure that you
love those who loves you back.

"WHEN LOVE HAS CAME TO YOU IT DOESN'T WAIT FOR YOU WELCOME
IT, IT SETTLES IN AND BRING JOY TO YOUR HEART"

2. Friends

*Acquaintance
*Companion
*Maecenas

-A friend is a person who you know and trust. What happens if all of that is use
against you. All what you have shared now being a weapon to take you down for
good. Friends which you trusted wholeheartedly are the ones which always turn
against us. "Let your enemy be your friend and your friend be your enemy", this
is because enemies don't fake their feelings for you and they don't pretend when
you are around. The person whom you call your best friend will suck you dry then
he/she turns on you. When that happens you won't only loose your trusted friend
but you will be also losing yourself too. Then it will be up to you to save yourself
but what is more concerning is what you will do after the healing process. Do you
repeat that same mistake ? or do you choose to do things different ?, Its better to
have friends but don't put them in your heart you better put them in your mind.
Avoid having a best friend in that way you will save yourself from getting hurt a lot.

"WHEN THINGS START TO BE TOUGH NEVER LOSE YOURSELF FOR PEOPLE WHO
ARE ALREADY LOST, SAVING YOURSELF WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE"

3. Depression

* Imprint
* Slump
* Melancholia

-The feeling of being neglected and not being loved. People refer depression
as being hurt but theres more, I am not saying they are wrong by the real reason
that you are hurt is because of them neglecting, rejecting and not wanting you.
Then you end up empty in the inside and you need something to fill you up. Suacidal
thoughts come and fill up that space because when you are depressed you end up
taking desperate decision.
-After you have taken those decision you end up getting hurt like the first time because
you are empty and you are desperate to fill that emptyness eith everything you come
across, Making desperate decision leads to what i call the second wave of depression
which can't be survived, so if you feel that you are empty stay empty than to be filled with
temporal things. That emptyness could build up a habit in which you wont rely on a person
or need a person to help you feel yourself again.

"DO NOT LOSE SIGHT OF YOURSELF WHEN YOU START FALLING IN LOVE, BECAUSE THAT'S
HOW YOU LOSE YOURSELF TRYING TO PUT SOMEONE ON A PESTEDAL THAT PUT THEM
BEFORE YOU"

4. Patience

* Endurance
* Fortitude
* Calmness

-Everyone always says good things come to those who wait and patience leads to success. Why wait
for thing if you can stand up, strike and fetch them yourself. What I am saying is that no one is going
to give you a nice life if you can't take it. You won't have a successful future if you don't work for it now.
Patience is a word in which excuses are made, the is nothing that the word has built so far, Instead of
you fetching your life, you are sitting clamaing to have patience. This word doesn't give it only takes, takes
time from us, takes the stage in which we lay the foundation for the future so if I were i would stand up now
stop enduring and fetch my life. Patience has never payed well but hard work will do.

"ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT YOUR LIFE IS YOUR STORY WRITE WELL AND EDIT WELL"

5.Courageous

* Lionhearted
* Valiant
* Spirited

-Being brave in life helps you overcome many difficult challenges.
A person with courage is fearless and knows how to deal with every
situation he/she faces. Courage is being brave but when you are
fearless and brave, we say you are courageous.
-Life has never fair to anyone and its a game without rules. Its either
you make your own rules or you just play without them. Making your
own rules can be tricky because you set the rules favoring what you
like and what you do not. Playing a game without rules is like walking
without point A and B. Having both points is important so that you can
remember where you come from and the sacrifices you have made to be
where you are right now. For you to reach your destination you need to be
brave and fearless. In every step of the way have courage because its brings
out the best in a person.

"THE LONG ROAD IS ALWAYS THE LESS TRAVELLED AND IT HAS FRUITFUL
RESULT AND A HAPY ENDING"

6. Temper

* Vexationa
* Chafe
* Indurate

-Temper is like nature, it is a personality which is inside a human body. It
can either be a shorter one(short temper) or it can just be normal.
-If you are a short tempered person things for you are always taken to a
higher level. In some way that your response will be affected because you
process things over and over again. Temper goes along with being brave
and fearless, so if you are a short tempered person we count you as a liability.
Sometimes you just need to have a positive mindset of viewing things. Having a
normal temper courage results in you performing at your best.

"YOU HAVE TRIED FOR THE FIRST TIME AND FAILED BUT THAT DOESN'T YOU
SHOULDN'T TRY AGAIN, SECOND CHANCES ARE FOR THOSE WHO NEED TO GROW
IN MIND AND CHANGE THEIR WAY OF APPROACH."

7. Acception

* Accepting
*Acceptive
*Acceptant

-Accepting who you are and what you are is never simple that’s why people end up doing
wrong things. This is because they can’t accept what they have, accepting your situation
has always been tricky because no one wants to be where they are right now. So the fast
you understand your situation the faster you will work hard to overcome.
-But you can also work hard to change the world into something you want. So where you
come from can’t be where you are going and it is also where you are not going too.
-In changing your situation remember to not lose yourself because you are very vailuable
and you can’t change if you have lost your self.

"YOU ARE THE ONLY THE PERSON WHO CAN CHANGE YOUR SITUATION, ACCEPT WHERE
YOU COME FROM BECAUSE ITS NOT WHERE YOU ARE GOING."

8. Hate

*Abhor
*Detest
*Loathe

-Hate is just like love it can be tricky too. Sometimes you hate a person because you love him/her.
Hate is another tool of killing a person. It can drive you to obsession and end up losing control of
yourself. Hate comes after love before you hate a person you love him/her. If you hate a person for
no reason, it’s just a way of showing him/her that you love. Hating a person you have loved can only
mean one thing, that you been hurt or played by that particular person. For your life to move on limit
hating a lot of people in that way you will succeed.
-Hate goes like a merrier go right, its just like lust because someday it ends. One moment you are in
love the next your are hurt then you starting hating that person not only because you guys have broke
up but because you are still in love with him/her. From my side hate is an excuse which hides the exact
feelings.

"DARKNESS CANNOT DRIVE OUT DARKNESS ONLY LIGHT CAN DO THAT AND HATE CAN NOT DRIVE
OUT HATE ONLY LOVE CAN DO THAT."

Publication Date: 08-07-2021

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