Healing Through Metaphor - Ernie Vecchio - Natural Holistic Practitioner (10 best books of all time .TXT) 📗

Synopsis of Content

1. Insight obtained from witnessing our life is less intrusive and painful than violating the emotional-self through trial and error.
2. Mistakes can be transcended and guilt relieved.
3. Life lessons expand consciousness.
4. Inner opinions and perceptions tend to be one-sided and condemning.
5. Though we are powerful and capable of incredible creations, unchecked this same power can be destructive.
6. The ego has to be humbled awake or made conscious.
7. The spirit provokes the ego into action. You chose what action.
8. There is a higher truth than judgment.

Original and Basic Truths

The intent of the creator was one of hope.

We are to make a shift from ego worship to honoring the compassionate view of the human heart.

Each human being is born with the fortitude to compensate for all

physical challenges.

We come into the world in divine favor: free from the prejudices of others.

Our spirit is perfect for whatever our designer intended.

Interference:

How our outer subjective truth interferes with our soul's intent.

1. We obtain an early shaming tear to the spirit that harms its development.
2. This charges our emotions [( e )nergy + motion] and requires a bridle of guidance.
3. If we can keep our expectations and efforts balanced (manage the kite's tail) we lessen the effect.
4. By learning to manage shame with compassion, the tear repairs itself and we can better forecast our emotions.
5. Ultimately, we can convert any outside subjective influence into motivation and lift.
6. The result is an elevated self and healed spirit.

New Truth:

Outer world conditions require that we learn forgiveness.

Shame happens to everyone. This leaves a hole in the psyche that drains our self-worth. It is a matter of how much

or to what degree

someone is torn - not IF.

We are collectively torn. Emotional and spiritual growth comes out of opposition. It always has. In this metaphor, the opposing forces of the holder (creator) and the (spirit) kite. If the human spirit is unable to reach its intended potential, it grows desperate to self-actualize.

When one imagines opposites, we think of sides in conflict. However, the holder and kite are designed to work together as one. Though our caretakers initially held our (string) fate, this is only until we can hold it for ourselves. If conditions are always less than favorable (without grace), shame is occurring and our sail gets torn. We can carry this context into our adult lives. What is happening to us is not necessarily who we are?

**Unconsciously the higher self imagines (images) a different truth.





Bridling Emotions and Mediating Within.

Mediating Within:

An Integration of one's experiences, thoughts, and beliefs with the spiritual to achieve internal resolve. It is a process that fosters compassion for the emotional self. Once activated, this principle allows freedom from the prejudice of self and others, and develops a context of living that is true, just, and ethical.

The practice:

Mediating within is an ethical undertaking that promotes an individual's spiritual freedom it requires:

(1) conscious mirroring
(2) emotional awareness,
(3) reduced self-deceit
(4) challenging one's irrational and moral authority

*There is no wrong or right way to be who we are.

**You were and are a source of hope that transcends past, present, and future. Getting stuck in your beginnings or past traumas does not mean that hope has been lost.

Step One

Exercise:

Remember the intent of the creator. List out what you remember about the intentions of your parents. Were you a symbol of hope? How was this focus lost? Feel your way into this exercise. Bridle your emotions. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________

Exercise:

What emotions come up? What thoughts accompany them?
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The intention of our creator has everything to do with what we become or what our physical presence is intended to accomplish. But for many their fate becomes based upon a symbolic dream. This dream gives us our name and place in the world. The truth is that dreams get interrupted.

Exercise:

What were your initial dreams? How far from them have you strayed?
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Exercise:

This interference creates the equal and opposite shadow energy of futility and defeat. Reflect on this time in your life. What comes up?
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*Truth is that we can free our spirits—or—live in resignation. Our emotional and spiritual journey begins with rediscovering our hopeful purpose, and balancing it against who we have become. To do anything less, keeps us encumbered by our initial beginnings.

Step Two

Were you created in a climate where making mistakes was not allowed? Do you have a lot of experience with guilt: self-blame and self-judgement?

Exercise:

Reflect on some of these irrational judgments and let go of the dogma associated with the message. List messages:
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Step Three

Shame's experience is much different than guilt. Shame believes it is not supposed to be here at all. Somehow, shame imagines that the creator made a mistake and YOU are the result. Because this is experienced as a tear in the self, healing becomes a spiritual and emotional journey.

Exercise:

Reflect on this message and see what comes up:
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Truth:

You were perfect upon delivery. The climate of your culture or family sabotaged you as a symbol of hope. Like a kite unable to forecast its own weather, you fell victim to a storm that prevented your actualization. Lightening or harmful words, paired with a flood of emotions, help form the belief that we are unworthy.

Step Four

Flying Exercise:

1. Envision your arms outstretched. Play with the wind as a child pretending he or she can fly. Remember how this feels. Expressions:
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2. Putting the wind at your back means you can reach heights fitting of your specific design. What do you see from this vantage point? Remember, anything less than the possibility of flying is in conflict with your purpose. It always has been. Reflect and remember.
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Truth:

you were designed to be strong, but were still vulnerable to the emotional tearing of guilt and shame. Remember, flying wounded was not what the creator intended. The heart knows this.

Step Five

You were created with a string bridle that is attached to your higher purpose and grace. It is specifically designed to assist in the managing of your emotions.

Exercise:

What emotions (not feelings) do you feel you have a lifetime of experience with?
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Step Six

The experience of shame:

Shame is the tail of our kite. Adequate and balanced in the beginning, it grows as we forget our creator's hope.

Failed expectations create drag. Abuse, rejection, abandonment- even in moderation- adds to this burden. Our tail becomes larger than it was designed to be.

Exercise:

Contemplate the intent of your creation. No matter the situation, was it really to hold you down or harm your spirit? Few caretakers or cultures would admit that they intend to extinguish hope by the treatment of their children. If you are more than the result of this interference, then what is stopping you? Ponder this question:
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Accepting the Physical Self

Not everyone comes into the world alike.

Exercise: Who have you been told you look like?

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Physical differences can take attention away from who we really are.

Exercise: Have you ever been teased for a physical attribute?

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It is not uncommon to look at others and make cruel or unkind comparisons.

Exercise: Do you have a cruelty that you remember that was done to you?

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*Body type variations are endless: tall or short, obese or thin, and flexible or stiff. Very similar to a kite, the frame or skeleton of our body determines our overall durability.

Stereotypes:

the smaller the frame, the more vulnerable the body, or the heavier the less agile and attractive.


What your body and a kite have in common:

Have you ever thought how something as simple as a kite can fly?

1. Kites are heavier-than-air devices. They weigh more than the volume of the air they displace.

2. They fly at the end of a string, overcome the force of gravity, and are kept in the air by wind pressure on their body. This pressure is called lift.

3. The kite body reacts to the wind pushing on it. This means that the air lift potential must be greater than the weight of the kite itself.

*Losing the intent of our creator means we no longer symbolize hope, feel physically inadequate, and begin to accept outer prejudices as the truth. Clearly, this is not uplifting.

Turns out that your physical attributes are perfect for flying if you understand the conditions:

1. When the downward force of hidden influences or expectations are greater than the physical self can imagine, then the upward force will also be greater.

Exercise: What were the conditions, hidden or visible, that represents your downward force? Did you know that these very same conditions can actually take you airborne?

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2. People tend to push against that which is trying to hold them down.

Exercise:

Remember what has been holding you down. Remember why you pushed back.

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3. External forces serve an important purpose because we internally try to match them. Counter forces make us better than we ever imagined.

Exercise:

Remember these counter forces. Are they still present in your life? If not, then the experience is holding you back - your memory is.

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4. The body is our original creative outward expression of potential. We must it's wisdom.

Exercise;

What are your physical strengths and weaknesses?

Exercise:

Of these four domains, which do you think lacks integration into the whole: psychological, physical, emotional, and spiritual. How so?

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5. The body doesn't know how to twist the truth. It speaks honestly about what it is capable of.

Exercise:

Recall a moment of presence. What preceded this experience and how did you achieve it?

Exercise:

Imagine a kite with no string connecting it to its holder. This is a vision of detachment. Remember a moment of lost guidance and control. How did you regain it?

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6. Struggling to fly higher than our tear may allow, we can break under the pressure of expectations.

Exercise:

Remember some of the expectations that have broken you down. How many are dated?
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7. Absence from the body is associated with many forms of abuse. It is a defense mechanism to detach. This is how we endure the violation and tearing of our spirit?

Exercise:

Have you healed all the reasons for your initial detachment? Examine what is left to finish - now - in the present.

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8. Being present means learning to trust again. If others violated the