Welcome to Where You Are - Michael Barbarulo PhDc,MS (ebook reader library .txt) 📗

therapist and Life Coach working with adults, adolescents, homeless men/women and the criminal justice population. Michael is a mental health/addictions educational consultant. He’s also receiving his PhD in Counseling.Michael lives in North Greenbush with his wife Joelle and his two kids Michael and Alyssa.

Contact information

Email: proactivesolutions42@gmail.com
Website: www.proactivesolutions.org


Dedications

To my Wife, Michael and Alyssa
Thank you for your love and support for the last year in a half. I really appreciate you. I’m all about loving you.


To Jon

Thank you for your passion, heart and transparency that bleeds’ throughout your music and lyrics. God has used you to get my life focused and centered on Jesus and my wife and kids thank you for that. You’re helping me to take control of my destiny. “The real man smiles in trouble, gathers strength from distress, and grows brave by reflection” (Thomas Pain). You’re truly an inspiration to me so keep writing you’re book. P.S I would bet my life that there is a lot of Bon Jovi fan’s in heaven.

To Richie

You’re the best guitar player I have ever heard because you play from your heart and soul. Your chords run deep through my spirit. God has a special place for you when you go home to be with him. He’s going to put you right next to Him so you can play … Keep the Faith and Living on a Prayer. Thank you my brother. “To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage” (Lao Tzu)

To Dorthea
What can I say “behind every good man is a good woman.” Thank you for keeping Jon focused and grounded.


To Tico

Thank you for your quite strength and your humility. “He's like a quiet strength. He's a strong man, when you get him, you get his best.” (Dennis Washington)

To David

Thank you for your strength that comes out through the keyboards and changing your mind and joining Jon at the conception.

To Hugh

Like you said in an interview, “You’re just the bass player.” No seriously, thanks for keeping Tico in beat and filling the shoes of Alex.


Table of Contents


Welcome to Wherever You Are…. It’s your Life

1.Personal Connections to Welcome to Wherever You Are and It’s my life
2.You have a purpose
3.Defining purpose
4.Living consciously

Review and Repair

5.Getting to know yourself
6.Looking at Reality
7.Love what you do
8.Break loose

Review and Repair

9.Defining your purpose
10.Love what you do
11.Time to make some decisions
12.What drives you?

Review and Repair

13.Believe it or not, your values are a road map for your life
14.New beginnings
15.My Challenge
16.Go the Distance

Review and Repair

17.Storms
18.Bless the curse
19.Look at the “Big Picture”
20.Life’s ups and down

Review and Repair

21.Transitions
22.It’s hard
23.Letting go what use to be
24.Go Deep

Review and Repair

25. Stop making yourself feel guilty
26. Feel the fear and do it anyway
27. Just getting through
28. Feel your life

Review and Repair

29. Taking life for granted
30. UGLY
31. Change yourself
32. The path of no risk is the biggest risk of all

Review and Repair

33. Be Assertive
34. Belly Flips
35. Face the Truth: Everybody’s broken
36. Working through your brokenness

Review and Repair

37. Nobody’s perfect
38. Turn your scars into stars
39. Living a life that works for you
40. Passion, Passion and More passion

Review and Repair


41. Sacrifice and Belief
42. Just older
43. Share your pain
44. Let go of old ideas
45. Be resilient and stay strong


Review and Repair

46. No Pain no gain
47. Handicaps don’t matter
48. Finding Comfort
49. Okay I need help

Review and Repair

50. Joey needed to grow up
51. Eyes wide open
52. Accept what you can’t change
53. Crisis vs. Opportunity

Review and Repair

54. Mend it don’t end it
55. Light a candle and “Pray together”
56. Stone of Faith
57. Happy Endings

Review and Repair

58. Simplify your life (Pt 1)
59. Keep going
60. Lean on yourself
61. God has given you a melody to write

Keep the Faith

62. Personal connections to Keep the Faith, and I Believe
63. Fight
64. Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened
65. What do you believe?

Review and Repair

66. Keep your faith
67. Get back up
68. Live in the moment
69. Forgiveness

Review and Repair

70. Courage
71. Novocain
72. Risking
73. Be true to yourself

Review and Repair

74. Roll the dice
75. Misery is optional
76. Hold onto hope
77. Emmanuel

Review and Repair

78. Stay hopeful
79. Stand in the rain so no one sees me
80. Come in out of the rain and get a hug
81. Honesty

Review and Repair

82. Nothing but the truth
83. You hurt me
84. When you feel like a headline on yesterday’s news
85. Communicating our feelings

Review and Repair

86. Facing our hurt
87. Seventy times seven
88. Forgiveness build the bridge
89. Even the Lone Ranger had Tonto

Review and Repair

90. Facing the truth will set us free
91. Attachments
92. Skinned knees
93. Concealed anger

Review and Repair

94. Nothing but the truth
95. What’s missing now?
96. Life is a promise
97. Reality is merely an illusion

Review and Repair

98. Carry on
99. You’re not helpless or hopeless
100. Blue eyes crying
101. These Days
102. Yo Adrian we did it

Review and Repair

103. Relationship Barriers
104. Relationships enlighten us and keep us alive
105. Bargaining with God
106. Mirror Mirror on the Wall

Review and Repair

107. Loving myself
108. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up
109. Anger
110. When troubles strike
111. Patience and persistence

Review and Repair

Bounce Back & Have a Nice Day …Everyday

112. Personal connections to Have a Nice day and Everyday
113. Character
114. Role models
115. Busting Loose

Review and Repair

116. Patient Endurance
117. Happiness is a choice
118. Open Road
119. No Brakes

Review and Repair

120. Silent Scream
121. Achievers
122. Achievers are determined
123. Naysayers

Review and Repair

124. Stay committed
125. Keep on trudging
126. Knocked down but not knocked out
127. Mean people suck

Review and Repair

128. We all fail from time to time
129. Michelangelo
130. Obstacles and Detours
131. Fail forward

Review and Repair

132. Create your reality
133. Promises, Commitments, Dreams
134. Persistence & passion
135. Stay focused and positive no matter what

Review and Repair

136. Relax … Life is a Journey
137. Everybody’s a critic
138. Beautiful Pearl

Review and Repair

139. Keep your Joy
140. Getting past your past
141. Home sweet home
142. Family rules

Review and Repair

143. Who am I now
144. Defense we use as an adult child
145. Life doesn’t just happen
146. Reassure yourself

Review and Repair

147. Self respect
148. Bill of Rights
149. Face your shadows
150. Family Scenes

Review and Repair

151. Making peace with your parents
152. Making peace with your past
153. Real Heroes
154. Forgive so you can bounce back

Review and Repair

155. Mom & Dad, why do I have to forgive?
156. Thank God for mistakes
157. Flexibility
158. God will fight your battles… all you need is faith

Review and Repair

159. Stink-in Think-in
160. Can Do Mentality
161. Say Goodbye to Anxiety and Worry
162. Lighten your load

Review and Repair

163. S.O.S
164. Survive or Thrive
165. Attitude
166. Stand your ground

Review and Repair

167. Confessions of Gina
168. Confessions of Tommy
169. Claim your rights
170. We need to talk

Review and Repair

171. Milton Hershey
172. The Secret of success is failure
173. What limitations?
174. Is your life really that bad?

Review and Repair

175. A note from Tommy
176. My perspective on life
177. Don’t bend don’t break an don’t you dare back down
178. Tommy needed me

Review and Repair

179. Close your eyes to see
180. Full Circle
Review and Repair

EXCERPT FROM VOLUME 2

1. Thank you for Loving Me


Personal Connections

Today’s Anthem’s

 Welcome to Wherever You Are
 It’s my life

Today I want you to take some time and listen to “Welcome to Wherever You Are” and “It’s my life” and work through the following questions.

1. What do I think about when I listen to these songs (for instance: memories, people, places and things)?
2. How do I feel when I listen to these songs? Explain.
3. What do these songs inspire me do?
4. In what ways do these songs remind me of changes I need to make in my life?
5. How do these songs help me?
6. The main messages I get out of these songs are…

Here are my personal connections to “Welcome to wherever you are” and “It’s my life”

“It’s my Life” and “Welcome to Wherever You Are” encourages me to reflect on the following issues:

1. Not being judgmental about where you are in life. (Richie Sambora)
2. Accept yourself and where you are in life.
3. Accepting each other’s opinions politically and moving forward ( Jon)
4. Staying passionate
5. Staying hungry
6. Respecting each other’s differences (We all are different but yet the same -Bon Jovi)
7. Facing reality each day
8. Loving ourselves no matter what
9. Accepting that God sees us as a miracle
10. New beginnings
11. Seeing loss as a part of life.
12. Living consciously
13. Developing self respect
14. Self efficacy

a. Being confident to face your situation, and learning and stretching so you can learn what you need to from the situation you’re in.
15. Personalizing your mistakes and failures, learning from them and moving forward.
16. Addressing denial and facing the truth.
17. Pride and humility
18. The importance of living your values.
19. Life’ interruptions ( life changes like the weather- Bon Jovi)


You Have a Purpose

Today’s Mantra

 Lost High Way
 Welcome to Wherever You Are

Today’s lyrical focus

 We all have the blood of Eden running through our veins

Welcome to wherever you are is a song about meeting yourself where you are in life and believing that you have purpose. Because “we have the blood of Eden running through our veins”, we all have talents, gifts and abilities to contribute to the world. “Everyone is a miracle in their own way.” Budda said, “Your work is to discover your work and then with all your heart to give yourself to it.”
It’s important to take the time to get to know the real you by asking yourself questions like, Who am I? Who do I want to be? What do I want to be known for? Am I caught between who I am and the person I want to be? We all have roles to play in this life and we need to check in from time to time to see if we are growing into the person we want to be. Napoleon Hill said it this way,“If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self.”

Reflection

I want you to listen to “Welcome to Wherever You Are” and “It’s my Life, and answer the following questions. I recommend that you listen to the song several times. Record your answers in your journal. Remember if your “Life is worth living, it’s worth recording.” (Anthony Robbins)

1. What do I think about when I listen to this “Welcome to Wherever You Are” and “It’s my Life (for instance: memories, people, places and things)?
2. Am I the person I want to be?
3. How do I feel when I listen to this song?
4. What does the song inspire me do?
5. Does the song inspire me to make any changes my life? Explain?
6. Does the song show me I’m were I’m supposed to be? Explain?


Defining Your Purpose