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Life Lessons From My Mother

My mom is awesome. And so is yours. And yours.

We all love our moms.

Thinking back over my almost 23 years of life, I can pinpoint specific lessons I’ve learned from my mom — and how they have related to building and growing my strength and weakness.

I’d like to share those top 7 lessons with you! We can learn from moms together.

Lesson #1: Stay True to Who You Are

My mother is a true example of loving yourself and staying true to who you are in life. She is uncompromising in her beliefs and her confidence and she makes everyone feel like they matter. She is a strong proponent of being confidently yourself and not listening to what others think.

Mom passed that confidence onto me, and it has allowed me to live very happily not caring what others think of me. Some people may not be supportive to you. That doesn’t matter. Your confidence in your skills and abilities is the most important factor. You have to believe in yourself even when things get tough.

Lesson #2: Do What Is Right

My mom had a poster that hung in her classroom which said, “What is right is not always easy and what is easy is not always right.” To this day, she lives by this motto; she is the most ethical person I know.

The easy way is not always the best way to achieve your goals. In business, there will be times when you have the chance to take shortcuts or do things in a way that could help you reach goals faster — but may cost you more in the long run. Staying ethical and doing the “right” thing, even when it is difficult, is what will allow your business to gain trust and credibility with your clients.

Lesson #3: Surround Yourself With People You Trust

My mother is the type of person who will invite strangers to the Passover seder, adopt a grandfather she found needing help at the supermarket, and open her heart, wallet, or home to those who need help. Those first two examples were not made up.

My mom showed me that family is what you make it. The people you love, the people who love and support you, those are the ones you should surround yourself with.If you cannot trust them with your vision and your process, do not let them in — it will only hurt you and potentially your bottom line. It’s important to cultivate relationships and surround yourself with people you can trust and rely on.

Lesson #4: Support Your Peers

Mom never believed in a scarcity of success. She knows that there is enough success for everyone to have some. She has never once taken away from someone else’s success in order to have more for herself. She knows there is a deep well and enough for everyone.Instead of comparing and finding yourself lacking, support one another. Ask for help, tips, advice, anything. Offer your own. 

Lesson #5: Have Grace Under Pressure

In a crisis, my mother is the one you want next to you. She is the personification of grace under pressure. She doesn’t freak out or collapse in tears, she does what needs to be done and then tends to her emotions later.

It is simply a part of it. Being able to stand strong and do what needs to be done rationally is extremely important. Of course, you’re allowed to have emotions and be emotional, but that comes after the hard work.

Lesson #6: Take Chances

Mom is the most supportive person. When I moved from my hometown to new city at 3 years old, she cried in sadness that I was leaving while cheering me on to follow my dreams. She would never have wanted me to put away my dreams simply because she would miss me and wished I was closer.

You supplement that leap of faith with knowledge, skills, education, connections, and more. But it comes down to taking a chance on yourself.

Lesson #7: You Can Achieve Anything

It all comes back to confidence. My mom taught me that with hard work, dedication, and determination, I could do anything I set my mind to. And she’s right. I’ve spent my life working hard work, and I have achieved a comfortable level of success.

But taking the time and effort to do the research, find your audience, put together systems and processes, cultivate relationship selling strategies, do the marketing, and learn to sell yourself, you can do it. If it were easy, everyone would do it! Anything worth doing is worth doing well and working hard to achieve your goals.

I’d love to hear about life lessons you’ve learned from your mom! Share your mother’s wise words so we can all learn more!

16 Life Lessons a girl needs to learn and follow

 

Girls are always special, aren’t they? They look up for love, light, and guidance and always try to be the best possible ones. As a woman, we balance relationships, friendships and family while trying from time to time to squeeze in a little fun. It is very fun, indeed, to hold to every ounce of your childhood as an adult. Over time, we learn how to deal with the good , the bad and the bad right hideous, but it is what makes life so valuable. It’s all right to eat a chocolate bar of share size once in a while, and it’s certainly all right to admit that everything is not everything right sometimes. We are all always learning, and the best thing that we can learn together is to be part of a wonderful welcoming community. Take a look at our dream life.

I’d like to give a small piece of knowledge to all my ones. I want to give them 16 little light bulbs to illuminate their journey…

1. Don’t strive to be popular, settle for being yourself, settle into yourself.

Over the years, I’ve learned that popular people are the most insecure. The popular girl or boy surrounds him or herself with others to hide from their own insecurities. When you settle for yourself, you will never settle for anyone who is not themselves.

 2. Say ‘No’ at least once a day.

Don’t be a people pleaser. You can’t do everything and you can’t please everyone, so say, No. By saying no, you are respecting yourself and your energy. Trust me, people will respect you more because when you do say yes, you will mean it. No one will ever question your presence or intention.

3. Know that you are absolutely right when you think that the calculus class you are taking is boring…and is information you will never use in real life.

You are right, yet understand that the patience you cultivate when sitting through the class, and the discipline you strengthen to solve the problem, will be the foundation that will allow you to persevere through every challenge and experience in life.

4. If you go shopping and you like something, don’t buy it right then.

Put it on hold. Go about your day, go to sleep, and the next day if you are still thinking of it, buy it.

5. Choose something to have faith in.

If you have faith, you have hope, and when you have hope you always find a way. When you see a way, you never give up.

6. Listen to the whisper, the churn in your belly, and the goosebumps on your arms.

Those sensations are not sensations at all, they are you speaking. Don’t listen to the second voice, that is just doubt, and definitely don’t listen to the third voice, that is just someone else’s opinion. Always and only trust yourself.

7. Find Your Yoga.

I don’t care if you ever do a down dog in your entire life, just find something that calms your mind and devote yourself to it. Find something that keeps your mind and body connected, healthy, and working together, because, in the times when everything else seems disconnected, it will keep you centered and grounded.

8. Acknowledge your gift.

God put you on this Earth with a legacy, you just have to see it. How do you see it? See this life as a journey. Learn as much as you can, read as much as you can, dance as much as you can, speak as much as you can, listen as much as you can, do as much as you can, travel as much as you can because that’s how you will see it. It’s already inside of you, you just need to spark it, so ignite as many flames as you can, and notice which one keeps burning. That goes for your life partner and your friends too.

Say hello to strangers, smile at the person sitting next to you at the coffee shop, or the person behind you at the grocery store. You never know, not only could they be your everlasting flame, but they could help reveal your gift. Your gift is your legacy, the legacy that will help serve the world.

9. Look around you and see the world, as you do now.

Point and rejoice as you see a bird fly by. Stand with your nose pressed to the glass as the rain pours down. Pick up a leaf or a flower and hold it as you would a piece of gold. Put it on your nightstand and cherish it. If you do this, you will take care of our earth and you may even heal it.

10. Check-in with yourself when you leave someone’s presence.

Ask yourself, do I feel uplifted and happy? Or, do I feel depleted and lethargic? If you feel uplifted, the person you were just with is a supporter, keep them around. If you feel depleted, the person you were with is an enemy to your heart, don’t associate with them and make no apologies.

11. Clean your room.

How you keep your space, is how you keep your mind. When things are neat, clarity will walk with ease.

12. Write

Your thoughts are precious and important. The best guidance you will get, is from yourself. Write them down and read them.

13.If you only remember one thing, remember this: You are the most important person in the whole world.

You determine your own direction, and if you trust your own compass, you will always remain on your path.

 

14.  Someone will break your heart real bad, but that does not mean you break someone else’s heart in return. 

This isn’t a tit for tat game. Don’t waste your time thinking of how you’ve been burned in the past, holding onto grudges, bringing baggage that does not belong in a relationship. Let karma do her thing. Move on, and trust me, you’ll find the right person. Let go and make room for the good.

15. Never