How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You by Leil Lowndes (knowledgeable books to read TXT) 📗

swells, pay attention to your speaking voice. Keep it low, keep it dulcet, and keep it clear. I once decided to give my voice a much needed boost and consulted an actress friend of mine, Barbara, who had a beautiful speak-Page 184

ing voice. Barbara's voice had an elegant ring to it. In fact, she made a living doing voiceovers for expensive cars and jewelry.

I knew Barbara had invested several thousand dollars in voice training, so I asked her what she got out of it.

Was it worth it?

"Yes," she replied. "But it could have all been summed up in one sentence." In a voice dripping with rubies, Barbara told me to pronounce every syllable of every word.

TECHNIQUE #52:

THE SOUND OF CLASS

The secret to a well-heeled tongue is, quite simply, to pronounce all of your syllables and finish every word that issues forth from your mouth.

What Does the U Crowd Talk About?

If you intend to do much prospecting on Easy Street, learn the street language of the residents. Listen attentively to get the drift of conversations. You'll soon sense that some topics are in, others are out. For example, the arts are in. How much something costs is out. (After all, the rich can have whatever they want, whenever they want it, and to heck with the cost.) Current events are in. Strong political opinions are out. Tributes are in. Teasing is out. Avocations are in. Vocations are out.

Upon rare occasions, I get invited (as the token working-class person, I'm sure) to parties studded with people whose main battle in life is fighting off charities seeking donations. At most parties, I enjoy talking about my work, but at these gatherings, I've learned not to don a friendly smile and ask "What do you do?" Many pedigreed pups don't doanything— at least not for pay.

In the case of prestigious prey? Well, you should juskt now what they do. It's an insult to ask. Page 185

TECHNIQUE #53:

DON'T ASK "WHAT DO YOU DO?"

Develop an ear for appropriate topics of conversation.

Pedigreed and other prestigious prey have very sensitive toes. You don't want to go around stomping on them.

Above all, avoid the favorite party question, "And, what do you do?" It tags you as so working class.

Use Status Words with Status Prey

People from richer backgrounds have richer clothes, richer houses, richer cars, and richer vocabularies.

They don't necessarily have big cars, but they do tend to avoid the common little ones.

It's the same with their words. They don't often use big ones, but they do avoid the common little ones that have little impact.

To be well-spoken in the well-heeled, high-accomplishment crowd, use the technique I caylol ur personal thesaurus . Think of some words you often use, for example, the overused wordsgood and smart.

It's very common to say, "You look good" or "That's a smart idea."

Take a thesaurus (a dictionary of synonyms) down from the library shelf. Look uspmartand good. You'll find dozens of richer synonyms. Like trying on a suit of clothes, choose three or four words that seem to fit your personality. Then, Hunters, the next time you want to compliment your classy Quarry and tell her she looks good, say, "Oh, Sue, you lookravishing ,"

or stunning . or "Sue, how striking you look," or "Oh, my goodness, you look elegant ."

Huntresses, you'd like to compliment your highbrow Quarry by telling him he did something smart?

Instead, say, "Oh, George, that was so cleverof you,"

or how resourceful, or ingenious. "George, that was so astute of you."

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Give high rollers high-rolling compliments. Cultivate your own personal thesaurus of not big words, but words you like, elegant words that fit you. Use them a few times with your friends and family.

Soon, just like breaking in a new pair of shoes, you'll be comfortable chatting with your well-spoken Quarry.

TECHNIQUE #54:

YOUR PERSONAL THESAURUS

To convey a rich background, choose rich words from the thesaurus. Like a beautiful necklace, try them on, then let them fall, like pearls, from your lips while chatting with your prestigious prey.

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Knowledge, Social Graces, and Inner Beauty Are Tangible Assets

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So far, we've talked about increasing your market value through manipulating your Quarry's impression of your physical appearance, possessions or money, and status or prestige. These are

but the first three assets that equity principle scientists say influence love. They are important but, by no means, the most important. In fact, many people prefer the next three qualities by far. They are information or knowledge, social graces or personality, and inner nature.

Let's talk about information, or knowledge. The pursuit of knowledge is a lifetime commitment, one that brings you deep joy throughout your life.

Intelligence gained through knowledge can also be a potent asset in making someone fall in love with you.

Many women, myself included, find the seedy, professorial, pipe-smoking, suede-patches-on-the-elbows-of-his-sweater type of man very attractive. I once flipped over a man

whom other women might call a poor, homely recluse because he was a genius on the computer. His knowledge deeply impressed me, and I wanted to learn from him. Hunters, especially in today's Page 188

world, women have a tendency to fall in love with men who can help them professionally. Your knowledge is an aphrodisiac to bright, ambitious women.

Social graces, or personality, is the fifth asset which gives you a higher value on the open love market.

Techniques throughout this book are offered to help you deal with these two aspects. Heed them all.

The final asset on the list, but by no means the least, is your inner nature. Perhaps this is the most important of all—it certainly is the deepest. To make someone fall in love with you, strive always to have loving thoughts about them and about others. Give selflessly to other persons when there is no reward in sight. Be sexually faithful, financially responsible, and personally flexible. The list of inner nature qualities goes on. You probably never thought of them in these terms, but they are all marketable assets you bring to a relationship. Everything you learn, every experience you process, every fine quality you develop,