How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You by Leil Lowndes (knowledgeable books to read TXT) 📗

spooky intuition when picking up on subtle tones of voice and facial expressions. The gentle sex is eerily expert at knowing how someone feels. A man, conversely, can't pick up on a sad face until his tie is drenched in his partner's tears.

Perhaps that's why women discuss feelings and men (because they're no darn good at it) seldom bring up the subject. Women, when talking with their friends, often ask each other how they feel about a certain situation. (The last time some men used the wordfeelwas when they told their high school buddies they got to feel up a girl in the backseat.) Hunter, you will distinguish yourself as a rare man indeed, if, while a woman is talking, you interject the elementary question, "How dofeelabout that?" You can ask the question about practically anything. Say she is talking about her home or something her sister did, her father said, or her friend asked. Maybe she's telling you about her job, what her boss said, or what her coworker did. No matter what she is discussing, she has feelings on the subject and, unlike you, she is probably more in touch with those feelings. She can articulate them better.

Here is a foolproof technique to make a woman perceive you as a truly sensitive man.

TECHNIQUE #59 (FOR HUNTERS): "HOW DO

YOU FEEL ABOUT THAT?"

Hunters, whatever she is discussing, simply ask,

"How do you feel about that?" Go ahead, force yourself.

After she pulls her jaw back up to get it operable, she will respond enthusiastically.

Huntresses, can you ask a man how he feels about a particular situation? Sure, but early in a relationship, he will probably consider it an irrelevant female question. He might give you a one- or two-word answer which you, of course would interpret as abrupt. Things could spiral down from there. Men simply don't usually think first about their feelings, just as you are not as comfortable thinking in competitive terms.

Suppose, in conversation with a man, you tell him how, instead of one of your female coworkers, you got a promotion. The man suddenly asks, "Good going. How did you tromp her?" The question would take you aback. Your internal dialogue would probably say, "Well, I didnt'tromp her. I simply was given the promotion because I deserved it." You would, of course, answer him politely, but the competitive male nature of his question would not endear him to you.

Women tend to be less competitive. They enjoy winning, but no special sense of victory comes from the defeat of the loser. His asking "How did you tromp her?" is not a question women readily relate to. Likewise, "How do youfeelabout" a certain situation is not a question a man can readily relate to.

Unless you are talking with one of the rare men who enjoys exploring his feelings, play it safe. Save your feelings questions for later in the relationship—much later.

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TECHNIQUE #60 (FOR HUNTRESSES):

DON'T EXPLORE ' FEELINGS' TOO EARLY IN A RELATIONSHIP

Huntresses, until the relationship is in safe waters or you detect that your Quarry is the sensitive type, don't go

overboard by asking a man how he feels about a situation. You may rock the boat before it gets launched.

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No exploration of the wondrous differences between Homo sapiens m. and Homo sapiensfwould be complete without addressing the former's (men's) hesitance to ask directions. One of the reasons, I am sure, that NASA decided to have female astronauts is so there would be somebody to ask directions when they got to the planets.

Even when a male driver is hopelessly lost, he seems constitutionally incapable of sticking his head out the window and

TECHNIQUE #61 (FOR HUNTRESSES):

STAY LOST!

Huntresses, if your Quarry gets lost, bite your tongue until it bleeds if you must, but do not suggest he ask for directions.

Never take it upon yourself to ask a stranger yourself while he sits there feeling like a larnebrainN.ever .

asking, "Excuse me, could you tell me where . . . ?"

God bless the woman who shouts over his humiliated head to a stranger, "Hey, we're lost. I think we missed the turn." A man translates that statement into: "This yo-yo turkey got us into this pickle and now the incompetent, impotent fool

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can't get us out." Huntresses, if you're looking for the way to his heart, let him find the way to wherever the two of you are traveling.

Hunters, the converse is true for you. When you use the following technique, your Quarry will know she's in the company of a rare man indeed.

TECHNIQUE #62 (FOR HUNTERS):

JUST ASK!

Hunters, if you get lost, do the lady a favor. Lock your ego in the glove compartment along with the maps. Just roll down the window and ask directions.

It won't kill you.

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As little girls, we women were able to weave great webs of fairy-tale fantasies about the lives of our dolls, while little boys couldn't ad lib an excuse when caught red-handed with their fists in the cookie jar.

Today, the stream of consciousness for little girls of all ages, nine to ninety, still runs stronger.

This once again became evident to me just last fall. I was bicycling along a winding path in Cape Cod, Massachusetts, with my buddy, Phil. We stopped to calculate where we were on the map. Just then an extremely attractive couple came bicycling in the opposite direction. They were both tanned, fit, and sportive. I flagged them down and asked the couple how to get to Oceanview Drive.

The woman started, "Oh, this is a beautiful path. You stay on it for, oh, I'd say, a quarter of a mile—well, maybe closer to a half. On the way you'll see many beautiful trees, some of them overhanging the path.

The colors are just starting to change. The path twists and turns a bit, but it's smooth all the way. In a while, on the left, you'll see a big white house. . . ."

Her male friend suddenly interrupted her. "Yeah, just follow this path and turn left at the end,"