The Reed Security Relationship Manual: A Reed Security Romance - Giulia Lagomarsino (best book club books of all time TXT) 📗

quiver. You’ve just fucked up. Not only are you about to get tears, but you’re also going to get yelled at for being an asshole.

“What’s wrong?”

Those two words are worse than the nine she previously asked you. There is absolutely no way that you can answer this and come out alive. This right here is the unanswerable question. If you tell her that you’re pissed because she wasted your time last night, she’s going to argue that she was trying to include you in what she did with the house. She wanted your opinion. Is that really so bad?

And if you say that there’s nothing wrong, she’s going to know you’re lying. You’ll do your best to keep it inside. You’ll tell her that everything is fine, but what you don’t realize is that women have noses like a bloodhound and they can sniff out that lie as soon as it leaves your mouth. Not only does she know that you’re lying, she knows that you’re purposely avoiding answering the question because you don’t want to start an argument.

Now, this right here is the key to all of this. The argument is what she’s after. Don’t listen to those pleas that she just wants you to be honest with her. Don’t let her tell you that if you would just tell her what was wrong, you could discuss it like adults. There is no discussing anything with a woman. The minute you open your mouth, she’s got a retort waiting for you. She knows your weaknesses. She knows that if she pushes you hard enough, you’ll eventually cave and join in the argument. It’s the nature of the beast.

And when you start yelling back at her about the cabinet and the wasted hours spent, she’s going to start crying and telling you that all you ever do is yell at her instead of talking things out. And now you’ve entered the ninth circle of hell.

You’ll argue about this for a good thirty minutes, the thirty minutes that you had planned on using to take a shower and cool down from your day. And when you can’t take it anymore, you’ll leave the house instead of sticking around to argue, because you know this isn’t an argument you can win.

So, how do you answer the unanswerable question? You don’t. There are bound to be days like this in every relationship. You aren’t going to win. Face the facts now. The harder you try to figure out a way past this, the more times your wife will end up in the bathroom crying her eyes out. And at the end of the night, you’ll feel like an asshole because you lost your temper and made her cry.

Now, for your information, here’s what takes place in the hours and days after this fight. At first, you come home and you ignore her. If she wants to be pissy, that’s on her. You don’t give a shit. So what if you don’t get laid tonight? It’s just one night. But the next day, she’s still giving you the silent treatment.

You ignore it as you go off to work, sure that she’ll cool down over the course of the day. But what’s really happening is that fire inside her is burning hotter and brighter than it was last night. Now, you’ve not only pissed her off and made her cry, but you’ve also refused to acknowledge any of the situation, thus fueling her anger.

When you get home, you see the tension in her face and you want to bring yourself to say something, anything to make it better, but your pride just won’t let you. You stroll past her as if you don’t care about her anger, and you take a shower. But when you go to sit next to her to watch your favorite show, you realize that she isn’t watching it. And it’s not like you can turn it on, because then she’ll know just how much you really like the damn show.

You spend the whole night in uncomfortable silence. She talks with the kids and laughs with them, but she ignores you. You have become insignificant. Not literally, but as long as you keep ignoring her, she will keep ignoring you. Now, here’s the thing about women, they hold a grudge better than anyone you will ever know. When you walk through that door and try to give her a kiss, she’ll turn her cheek, purse her lips, and walk away from you.

By the next day, you’ll have lost all ability to stay away from her. You can’t take her ignoring you or the tension in the house. So, you cave. You joke around with her and try to pull her back from the depths of hell. You gush about how fantastic dinner is, even though it’s the same fucking meal she makes every Wednesday. You even give her extra kisses and tell her how much you love her. But at this point, the only thing you can do is tell her you’re sorry. You’ve lost the battle. There is no coming back from this without an apology. And don’t even think about suggesting sex later tonight, whether you apologize or not. It’s not happening.

So, men, the lesson is that there is no way to answer the unanswerable question. Just hold onto your pants and ride it out.

The Art Of Apologizing

You’ve Fucked Up. Now What Do You Do?

Listen, we’ve all been there. You’ve said something, done something, hell, you just existed, and now your woman is mad at you. It happens to all of us, and guess what, there’s no easy way out of it. However, we have some do’s and don’ts for you to follow.

Don’t Do This:

1. Don’t turn things around on her and blame her for your fuck-ups. This results in the shocked look on her face that eventually morphs into anger. Nothing good happens after this.

2. Don’t pretend like you don’t know what she’s talking about, especially