Naked Solutions Of Dressed up Life Woes - Santosh Jha (ebook smartphone .txt) 📗

well and flourish beautifully.

The missing golden ‘equilibrium’ between individualistic instincts and culturally ‘appropriate’ behavior is killer of species and their culture. The experts have been warning that the utterly liberal, individualistic, instinct-based modern culture with crumbling societal ‘appropriates’ is calamitous.

The modern liberal ideology goes against the golden principle, which says, “The unit of human culture is not the individual. It is, instead, the male-female bonded pair and their offspring. This has been true for at least 4 million years.”

The modern liberal culture of instant-self-gratification and licentious attitude to attain it at whatever cost, is calamitous. Though, it is still in manageable minority, confined mostly to developed societies, the trend is fast catching up because we live in a highly connected world, where information easily transcend sovereign boundaries, without control.

A culture is the summation of the individual behaviors within a given group. All species have cultures. Each has a specific pattern of behavior. These patterns were designed to enhance species survival. In modern liberal societies, individuals are developing a thinking that they are at war with ‘societies’ and ‘politics’ as they have ‘vitiated’. There may be elements of truth in it but there is also a great amount of over-statement in it.

The society and state on the other hand too complain of individuals gradually becoming hard to be governed and disciplined. They too have issues with people becoming insensitive to group behavior. The cumulative result of this is a sad reality, which is fast becoming a global trend. The licentious individuals instincts, addicted to instant-self-gratification drives are at war with each society and state first and then this war turns into a battle between individuals.

The age-old war of individual against societal culture has shifted to a new territory. The war is now between ‘liberated’ individuals. The worst manifestation of this war is the fast aggravating ‘gender-battle’. As individuals, both men and women, think of themselves as a ‘viable-unit’ of the society itself, with a choice for ‘no frill-no baggage’ life, the family is the first casualty in most developed liberal societies.

This works against the mechanism of natural instinctive wellness, which is the essential design of every human being. We are basically a social animal, evolved since millions of years in a tribe or society. Our wellness and goodness all exist in collective space, where individuals shape their empowerments.

The individual at war with collectivity has unleashed gender battles and family becoming a big casualty. We are ourselves killing our wellness structures.

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Ferraris Of Life, That Do Us In

An old man loved his son very much and one day, he gifted him a shiny new Ferrari. The son was thrilled to death. After collecting his senses, he shouted loud for all to hear in accentuated words – ‘I have the best dad in the world’.

The old dad hugged him tight and replied grimly, ‘May destiny decide the best’.

Few days later, the son crashed his Ferrari and landed in hospital for good one month. As he gained consciousness and collected his intelligence, he confided to his nurse – ‘My dad is the worst in the world. His bloody Ferrari did me in! Why the hell he shoved it on me!’

Every single human being has the right to accept and believe in his own subjective truths. This is our mechanism. The body-mind design has it. Truths for us change, as we stand in instinctive ‘reaction’ to specific and different life and living situations. There may well be objective and singular truths and facts about all things and realisms but, such is our mechanism that we all shall first accept and believe in our own subjective truths and facts.

Over the years, it was felt that as science would spread its objective and singular facts, the common people shall benefit from it, and gradually, the world shall have one common factsheet as referral for all realisms.

This, however, proved wrong as nothing could change the innate and instinctive mechanism of ‘subjective perceptions’. At the ultimate analysis, objectivity and singularity of facts and truths do not matter much. They all shall be accepted and internalized through a mechanism of body-mind, which shall always remain ‘subjective’.

As the reality seems today, even objective science and its facts are being ‘subjectively internalized’ and accepted in ‘individualistic preferences’. The trouble is accentuated as, even ‘objective science is being aligned to subjective stand-points and now being used as weapon of narcissism’. Someone recently said, “We live in a culture where dull biological platitudes make headlines and irritating scientific clichés win arguments.”

We surely need a culture, which embraces complexities and not one, which gives in to simple and often simplistic culture. Science and especially scientific psychology and neuroscience hold as prism for humanity. The pop culture of one-liners and narcissistic personalization is calamitous. The age-old human ingenuity of pop-intrapolation of complex factuality is helping the proliferation of narcissism and psychosis of individuality.

There is also this trigger-happy denial of factuality as folk/pop psychology ensures that people think, they can very well accurately understand and explain their behavior and actions. Most people assume, their experiences and observations make them ‘expert-enough’ to discount any other explanations, even if it is scientifically validated. Science, anyway, in folk psychology is ‘devil’s workshop’ and deviant ungodly stuff.

That is probably why, those who understand the ‘in-built’ and ‘innate’ mechanism of human body-mind, they very affectionately and compassionately understand and accept this ‘subjectivity’ and the resultant conflicts of minds. However, they extend a warning, as the dad did in the story above – ‘intelligent races are suicidal’.

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We Want Trust On The Menu, But Serve Distrust

Simple and straight life has everything in plain and in few parameters, which makes decision making easy and life also very much uncomplicated. However, the sad reality is, life we all are living today is complicated and getting more so. Never ever in the history of human culture, we had everything around us so complicated and conflictingly complex.

Experts warn, “We are exposed to and inflicted with too much information (TMI), too much choice (TMC) and too much technology (TMT). Too much, almost everything around us. We are also being subjected to multiple truths. The media, markets and even leaderships are feeding us a seemingly endless diet of half-truths and lies, which are wrapped in truth-foils.

Almost everyone around seems to want to tell and sell us something – especially his or her own set of ‘truths’. Everyone now has a wider media in its hand, as networking and connectivity spreads its reach and penetration in wider society. The big trouble is the contradiction – we want something else from others still, we all do not do the same ourselves. In the environment, which is best described as ‘trust-deficit’ universe, we wish to have only ‘genuine’ and ‘authentic’ but never extend the same to others.

Experts say, “On the one hand we expect people and products to be trustworthy, ethical, real and tell genuine stories about their history. On the other hand, we are ourselves leading increasingly fake lives – filling up lips with Botox, dying hair blonde, enlarging breasts, being virtual on social sites and pretending we're happier or sad than we really are.

This has filled our milieus with two deadly syndromes – hypocrisy and narcissism. Some bunch of people has understood the futility of all this hypocrisy and narcissism and they have moved to simple and uncomplicated life and living choices. We all need to move to simplicity and innocence of un-complications.

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Accept My Gratitude

Writing something is a daunting task as there is always a lurking apprehension of it not being in utility for some readers. I however feel at ease, because of my faith in magnanimity of readers. I am happily sure; you shall forgive if my efforts could not be up to your expectations. Thank you so much for being with me and allowing me to share with you. Wish you an empowered life; with the prosperity of the consciousness.

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About The Author

 

People say, what conspire to make you what you finally become are always behind the veil of intangibility. Someone called it ‘Intangible-Affectors’. Inquisitiveness was the soil, I was born with and the seeds, these intangible-affectors planted in me made me somewhat analytical. My long stint in media, in different capacities as journalist, as brand professional and strategic planning, conspired too! However, I must say it with all innocence at my behest that the chief conspirators of my making have been the loads of beautiful and multi-dimensional people, who traversed along me, in my life journey so far.

The mutuality and innocence of love and compassion always prevailed and magically worked as the catalyst in my learning and most importantly, unlearning from these people. Unconsciously, these amazing people also worked out to be the live theatres of my experiments with my life’s scripts. I, sharing with you as a writer, is essentially my very modest way to express my gratitude for all of them. In my stupidities is my innocence of love for all my beautifully worthy conspirators!

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Publication Date: 07-19-2020

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