Naked Solutions Of Dressed up Life Woes - Santosh Jha (ebook smartphone .txt) 📗

Geeta says, ‘All actions must be like offerings at a prayer’, which ensures that all actions must be aimed at collective wellness and never towards singular self-gratification. Never be narcissistic about what you know. Knowledge is an infinite journey. Journeying is joy, not arriving. The moment you feel you have arrived, narcissism kills your wisdom.

This is the form of divinity available for humans. This is the preferred journey. As this happens, then, the individual becomes the theatre, performer, audience and the play all at one time. Then, the truth stands there to applause.

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Summary

LET US NOW JUST sum up, in simple and few lines, what we have talked about “undressing” problems to find “naked” solutions:

The world we live in is huge and complex, beyond our imaginations and this is why, life is not meant to be easy. Still, we have successfully dealt with all complexities and troubles of life, as we are the best problem solver of the universe.

Most of what we see and experience is usually neutral, neither out-rightly good nor bad. This world is not our theatre of good or bad. We are the theatre of what good or bad happen to us.

Problems are usually, just the positioning or situation of some elements of our immediate and ambient physical and emotional environment. The solution cannot be outside the elements, which constitute a problem. Often, solutions are just an alternative arrangement of the same elements within a problem.

We have the mechanism for solving problems brilliantly but, it works best when we are not in our instinctive ‘reactive-mode’ but in ‘receptive-mode’. The receptive-mode mind-consciousness is our subjective consciousness, which is the doorstep of our true intelligence, which is the problem solver. We need to assess a problem not with ‘reactive-mode’, but ‘receptive-mode’ consciousness.

This subjective consciousness is the great facility and a definitive edge for humanity, putting us on top of all other species on Earth. However, this subjective consciousness is usually overly “dressed-up” and burdened by the cultural-fabrics of archetypal and popular ‘learning’. We need to “undress” our subjective mind consciousness, through the process of “unlearning”, as we grow and mature.

We have attained great success in mechanical and tangible matters, because of the singularity and objectivity of procedures. In emotional, inter-personal and intangible matters, we have most troubles as we always have plural, subjective and opinion-based procedures. That is why, to be equally successful in later domain, the key elements are tolerance, acceptance and compassion as it allows a holistic-assimilative-integrative mind-consciousness. This works best in the later domain where singularity is calamitous, unlike the former domain where singularity is a virtue.

Often, an individual’s decision about right and wrong, good and bad is based on very localized factors of ambient culture. This often ‘dresses-up’ a problem. If one accepts the utility of wider and larger environment, in deciding a value, one shall have larger objectivity. This shall help in seeing a problem in universal perspective, enabling better and quick solutions.

Our brain is a genius of solutions but it has its limitations. The larger mechanism of brain is instinctive, an auto-mode functioning, where an individual’s subjective consciousness has little control. We need to learn through disciplined practice, the art of reigning in our instincts and subject it to as much assimilative-integrative referrals as possible. This checks intuitive ‘dressing-up’ of day-to-day problems of life.

The decision-making process of mind is affected by multiplicity of factors and even we cannot know which factor prevailed over others in deciding in favor or against a situation. The conscious mind is a small space in mind compared to huge subconscious domain. We need to learn the art of ‘unlearning’ to prune our subconscious mind of unproductive and archetypal benchmarks, to ‘undress’ a problem at hand.

There is a state of mind-consciousness, which is greatly helpful in attaining this position, which undresses problems and arrives at naked solutions. This state has broad four elements – non-discrimination, tolerance and non-aggression, non-obsession for self-gratification and openness for new knowledge and wisdom.

Solutions are essentially a state of mind positioning. The best state of mind is “innocence”. This innocence in adult is very different from that in a child. In kids, it is unconsciously engendered out of purity of ‘ignorance’, whereas in adults, it is a conscious creation of ‘wisdom’. Adults attain it after a long process of “unlearning”, whereas for kids, it is a natural reward of ‘not learning’.

This innocence in adults is what I call “The State of Zero”, the state of quintessential readiness, the state of ‘nisprih’ beingness. When it happens; all good and cherished ideals of humanity fall in your lap, they fill your being. It embodies all goodness – honesty, innocence, transparency, selflessness and egolessness and above all the compassion.

This innocence, the state of zero, leads you to the ultimate empowerment of self – The Ability to Forgive. When forgiveness becomes the first instinct, it is a sure sign that the stage of readiness has been attained.

This state of mind-consciousness accepts very little “problems” and needs very few “Solutions”. This is a mind-consciousness, where you accept nothing – no pride, no self, no ego, no ‘I’ and you give everything as you forgive.

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NOW THAT WE HAVE TALKED about the broad idea about problems and solutions, I am sure, it would be ideal if we also talk about some situations and issues of practical life and living. How we usually deal with them and the problems that these situations buoy up for us. The idea is to talk about the dualism – how on one hand we usually “dress-up” simple problems and how on the other hand we can handle them well by arriving at naked solutions. These life situations and issues may be different and problems emanating out of them also would look different. However, the operative mechanism of the problems and their solutions shall have lots of commonality.

We can see that problems are usually because of our reactiveness and partial perspectives, whereas, the solutions shall come from holistic and assimilative perspectives, brought about by a receptive mind consciousness.

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Elusive Wedding Of Love And Wellness

Wellness is a function of wider poise of person and personality, which includes factors not only cognitive but also emotional. Wellness is the core emotion, the guiding energy of all pursuits of life. Nothing is worth a penny, if it does not anyway enhance our overall wellness-quotient.

A person is supposed to be in complete wellness when there is a balance between the cognitive factors such as income, wealth, comfort, leisure and health as well as emotional factors such as trust, security, integration with family-friends-colleagues, connectivity, stability, sense of desirability and spiritual purpose, etc.

Love, like wellness is also not a singular and isolated emotion. It is a function of so many cognitive and emotional factors. Often, we have a tendency to see and accept only partial aspect of love and wellness. In addition, the two elements may culturally be referred as separate elements but are essentially two sides of the same coin of life. Love is the core prerequisite of larger wellness and wellness alone ensures the onset of the rainbowish colors of love and intimacy. It is our design.

Somehow, it is always easy to ‘show off’ something, hard to actually have them. Love, like wellness can be flamboyantly exhibitionist; it often is. However, to actually have wellness and love is tough and not given to showmanship or one-upmanship.

Deodorant makes one look ‘fresh’, he or she may not have taken bath for days. Exhibitionism is ‘virtual’ realism only. Real wellness, like real love is enduring and seldom tangibly demonstrative. Love, like wellness is intangible realism, not amenable for tantrums of tangibility.

Both love and wellness are emotions needing sincere and disciplined internalization. That is why; we have to be in receptive-mode consciousness, the moment we are in love. All wellness mechanisms need to be receptively taken in by a conscious mind and then absorbed and internalized deeply to make it a habit of the sub-consciousness.

We all have experienced it that prayers are just catalytic tools of the internalization of deeper faith in God. Prayers need to be internalized so that God becomes a part of our subconscious. The consciousness needs churches and temples, as well as prayers and other rituals only until faith is internalized.

Once love and wellness become part of our subconscious, we shall need no conscious and external expression of them as love and wellness shall become our instinctive habit. All other intangibles, like happiness and prosperity are internalized the same way.

 

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The ‘I’ and ‘You’ Between This Poor Love

One small sentence, ‘I Love You’, is probably the most spoken set of words in the world. However, as the word arrangement suggests, this poor thing Love is ‘sandwiched’ between ‘I’ and’ You’. An intangible entity caught between two very powerful tangible entities.

Often, the tangibles become more important and the poor love is pushed, rather squeezed in between the two – I and You. How interesting the set of words and their arrangements are. Try this – Keep the ‘I’ out of the sentence ‘I Love You’. It becomes – ‘Love You’. This does not change much of the meaning as the expression still connotes – someone is loved. Or, the ‘you’ is being loved.

Now, keep the last word, ‘You’ out of the sentence. It becomes – ‘I love’. This sounds so vague. It does not mean anything specific. One feels, there must be someone who is the ‘recipient’ of I’s love. Does it mean, ‘You’ is more important than ‘I’ if Love has to take place meaningfully? In fact, in Love, ‘I’ is useless if ‘You’ is not there. It does not make any fruition.

Often, any action has a subject, a verb and an object. In ‘I Love You’, there are two subjects and one actionable verb. Often, Love is a casualty between the two subjects. Stronger and more culturally intelligent the two subjects are, greater the chances of love’s casualty.

The way out is what the sentence itself suggests – in ‘I Love You’, ‘I’, the egoistic self needs to dissolve into the being of ‘You’ and then, the magic begins. This situation is tough to arrive at. It is true that every single human being wants to be in the perpetuity of love. Still, love is the most elusive and evasive content in the lives of humans.

In contemporary world, love is the biggest casualty not because anything intrinsic has changed between man and woman. The big change is however in the ‘subjects’ of love – The ‘I’ and ‘You’. Both man and woman have become far more dualistic in consciousness as their cultured mind does not allow them to shed their subjective egoistic consciousness.

That is why, even when love happens, the two refuse to shed their culturally segregated and conflicting consciousness as ‘subjects’ of love. Love takes a back seat as ‘subjects’ become the focus of love. Finally, love dissipates and bodies of subjects become the theatre of something taken as love but it is just a mechanism with little or no essence.

Love is so open and available for everyone to experience and experiment. For love to happen and stay, the two subjects have to unlearn and shed the weights of their subjective consciousness. In fact, they have to cease to be subjects. In contemporary world, love does not stay as two subjects in love, not only do not shed their subject tags rather play ingenuous games of mind for one-upmanship of subjective superiority. Love evaporates the same moment.

Love seems to be more a casualty in the hands of women today as they have found a new ‘subject’ in their newly arrived subjective and dualistic consciousness. This is a sure winner for them in society otherwise, but somehow puts them at some disadvantage in love as even the modern male is in role-transition. Sadly, the gender divide gets its lifeline.

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Why People Becoming Too Difficult To Be Loved?

The world we love so much always has had its troubles and there have been people who attempted to go into the roots of it