How to Talk to Anyone (Junior Talker #4) - DeYtH Banger (list of ebook readers TXT) 📗

words that I’m talking about are what I call “dead end words“.

 

 

You may not realize it, but most people (including myself) are guilty of using way too many dead end words in conversation.

Dead end words completely make whatever conversation you’re having hit a wall. As soon as the dead end word is muttered, the conversation loses all momentum.

 

 

Okay, so here is the list of the most frequently used dead end words:

 

1. “Cool.”

2. “Nice.”

3. “I see.”

4. “Interesting.”

5. “That’s funny.”

6. “That’s cool.”

7. “Wow.”

8. “Oh.”

9. “Okay.”

10. “Mmm.”

 

These words do nothing to advance a conversation.

Instead, the conversation dies not a slow, torturous death, but an immediate, bullet-in-the-brain gory death.

Dead end words are not even words that are used because you have an honest feeling to convey, but merely because you don’t know what to say next or because you’ve gotten accustomed to using them out of reflex.

These words give your conversation partner nothing to respond to and place the burden of making further conversation on them, which ultimately makes you an inconsiderate conversation partner.

Even when you don’t mean to be inconsiderate, you are at a minimum being an ineffectual, limp conversation partner.

So, starting today I want you to start eliminating this habit of using dead end words.

An Example of Dead End Words

Here’s an example of how dead end words destroy the vibe and flow of a conversation:

You: “What did you do last weekend?”

Your Friend: “I went to Los Angeles last weekend.”

You: “Oh cool.”

Your Friend (feeling a bit frustrated): “I was there to attend a wedding.”

You: “Wow.”

(Now, your friend is really frustrated. What do you think happens next?)

Your Friend: “Okay buddy, I gotta go. Talk to you later.”

Do you see how when you use these dead end words, the conversation completely dies?

 

Every single person in a conversation bears the responsibility for not letting the conversation die, but in this case, you failed in your responsibility.

 

What To Do Instead: Five Ways To Keep A Conversation Going

 

Now, you’re probably asking: “Well, what should I do/say instead of dead end words?”

Well, I’m going to tell you right now. Pay attention!

Instead of allowing a conversation to come to a dead stop with a dead end word or dead end phrase, you need to have techniques to keep it going, so here are five ideas for you for how to keep a conversation going (using the Los Angeles example you just saw above):

Technique #1: Relate

You can just relate to what the other person is saying:

Your Friend: “I went to Los Angeles last weekend.”

You: “Oh, I went to L.A. last month too and had a fantastic time!”

Technique #2: Connect The Dots

You can “connect the dots”, which means connecting what the other person said to something else that is related to what they said:

 

Your Friend: “I went to Los Angeles last weekend.”

You: “You did? Talking about L.A., the Dodgers are doing terrible!”

Technique #3: Make A Statement

You can make a statement, in this case, you would just make a statement about Los Angeles.

Your Friend: “I went to Los Angeles last weekend.”

You: “You did? L.A. is just awesome, especially the weather. I’m totally jealous.”

Technique #4: Go Macro

“Going macro” means taking the subject of the conversation and getting broader with it. Here’s an example:

Your Friend: “I went to Los Angeles last weekend.”

You: “You did? Vacation time is just the best time of the year. I can’t wait to go on vacation myself.”

Technique #5: Go Micro

“Going micro” is the opposite of “going macro”. Instead of getting broader with the subject, you “drill down” into the subject itself. Here’s an example:

Your Friend: “I went to Los Angeles last weekend.”

You: “You did? Where in L.A. did you stay? Beverly Hills, Hollywood, or some awesome beach city?”

 

 

If you want to learn about “going macro” and “going micro”

So, there you go! There are five time-tested, effective ways to keep ANY conversation going.

Simple right?!

 

 

 

 

 

Chapter 16 - Rape Method (Part 1) (WOW)

 Note: I hate people who say "Wow"... as the privious chapter was said... "Wow"... "cool" are deadly conversation words which kill conversation...

What more can kill conversation is repeation of data and stories... it doesn't feel cool... once okay... twice okay... but too much investing and living a privious moment and not living in "Now"... soon is going to fuck you over....

 

 

- Look it happen...!? Okay!?

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Now let's go for the next ride... don't invest in past events... no active money you can get from there... or

 

 

CAN YAAAAAAAA!?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Note: Little off the bridge... but what happens if escalation goes so far that you become a rapist?


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Talking about Dating Advice

 

 

 

 

 

 

Police Interview Shows How Rapists Think

 

 

 

 

“I am not a rapist. I am a good guy."

 

 

 

 

Raymond Gates, an Ohio man who was sentenced to nine years in prison for the rape of a 17-year-old, tried to explain his crime away by blaming everything but himself.

Raymond’s police testimony highlights common ways that perpetrators try to shed blame for their crimes. A Periscope video, livestreamed by 18-year-old Marina Lonina, showed the young woman yelling “no, it hurts so much,” “please stop,” and “please no,” according to police documents provided to Teen Vogue. Lonina was sentenced to nine months in prison for obstructing justice.

“It was consensual,” Raymond told Columbus, Ohio Police Detective Brent Close, according to a police interview summary.

 

 

 

“She tells me, 'Yes, everything's cool.' She's cool with making out. She's cool with us getting naked. She's cool with us being there, Then all of a sudden, you know, a couple of seconds before... I mean, I'm sure. That's what happens, girls are like 'Oh. It's just going to hurt' and stuff like that,” Raymond said.

 

He added: “She just got, like, last second. Like, 'I don't want to do this.' Then we started doing it and everything was cool.”

 

“This girl came back to my house, she's eighteen, she's a virgin. She's telling me she wants to lose her virginity, man, like that she's ready to do it and everything. And then right a couple seconds before, and she's like 'I don't know,' and stuff like that. I mean, that's how girls get when they lose their virginity,” Raymond said, according to the interview summary.

 

“I am not a rapist. I am a good guy. I have only been with a few women. I am not a rapist,” he said in a police interrogation video.

“After I’m inside of her she’s like stop. I’m already inside of her at that point, man,” he continues. “It hurts when a girl gets her virginity taken… [this accusation] is news to me, buddy.”

 

For anti-rape activists, there is no valid excuse Raymond could have provided. “You can say no, and no means no, and it’s over. You’re breaking the law by continuing when someone says no,” said Alison Berke Morano, a co-founder of The Affirmative Consent Project.

“When it came down to it, she said no,” said Brian Pinero, vice president of victim services at RAINN, an anti-sexual assault organization. “No matter what was going on before, the response to having intercourse was no.”

 

The victim told police that after the rape, she cried as Raymond spooned her. Before she left, she asked him why he had assaulted her. He told her that “he did not know what taking a girl’s virginity was like and he thought she was okay with it,” according to the police document.

 

By bringing up the woman’s sexual inexperience, Raymond was blaming the victim, Pinero said.

“That’s just a poor excuse to justify actions and it’s not it does not matter what level of experience someone has sexually. It doesn’t matter if it’s their first time or their 20th time having sex, no is no,” he said.

“They’re super common excuses,” writer and activist Jaclyn Friedman said of Raymond’s statements to the police. “What they tell me is he really does not care about her. He wants to find excuses to wipe it away.”

The victim described herself as “very intoxicated” — at one point, she was sitting on the bed, talking to Raymond. She tried to stand but stumbled back. That’s when he got on top of her and began kissing her, according to the police document.

“In general, someone who is slurring their words, stumbling, unable to be coherent, or obviously passed out, is too drunk to consent. Additionally, we often mistake issues of alcohol and consent for being about not knowing how drunk someone is. The reality is that people can use alcohol like a date rape drug,” sex educator Lena Solow wrote in Teen Vogue.

 

“Most of the time the perpetrators know, they just don’t take it seriously. You hear in this guy’s narrative, he hears her say she doesn’t want to, and he just blows right past it,” Friedman said.

 

“It’s victim blaming,” Pinero said. “To me it doesn’t matter what’s involved. If the word no is given, it’s over.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 Note: Comedians... get rid of pain... by talking about it and  joking about it... Normal people... who are out of comedy are like others... try to forget about it... and actors... just continue rolling... it's life the film tape won't stop because of a piece of shit like you.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 Note:  Good Adevice for people who over-do stuff... come on you suckers.

 

 

 

 

A woman interviewed 100 convicted rapists in India. This is what she learned.

 

 

 

 

NEW DELHI — In India, many consider them “monsters.”

 

Madhumita Pandey was only 22 when she first went to Tihar Jail in New Delhi to meet and interview convicted rapists in India. Over the past three years, she has interviewed 100 of them for her doctoral thesis at the criminology department of Anglia Ruskin University in the United Kingdom.

It all started in 2013, first as a pilot project, months after the highly publicized gang rape and murder of a woman now known as “Nirbhaya” meaning “Fearless One.” The details of the case — a young, aspirational medical student who was attacked on the way home with a friend after watching the movie “Life of Pi” — struck a chord in India, where according to the National Crime Records Bureau, 34,651 women reported being raped in 2015, the most recent year on record.

 

 

Nirbhaya brought thousands of Indians to the streets to protest the widespread culture of rape and violence against women in 2012. That year, gender specialists ranked India the worst place among G-20 countries to be a woman, worse even than Saudi Arabia where women have to live under the supervision of a male guardian.

[An Indian teen was raped by her father. Village elders had her whipped.]

“Everyone was thinking the same thing,” said Pandey, who at the time was on the other side of the world, in England, finishing off her master’s. “Why do these men do what they do? We think of them as monsters, we think no human being could do something like that.”

The protests forced a national conversation about rape, a topic which still carries huge stigma in India. Pandey, who grew up in New Delhi, and saw her city in a new light after the Nirbhaya case, said: “I thought, what prompts these men? What are the circumstances which produce men like this? I thought, ask the source.”

 

 

 

Since then, she has spent weeks talking to rapists in Delhi’s Tihar Jail. Most of the men she met there were uneducated, only a handful had graduated high school. Many were third- or