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How to Talk to Anyone (Junior Talker #1)

by DeYtH Banger

Quotes

“Proper Planning and Preparation Prevents Poor Performance” 
― Stephen Keague, The Little Red Handbook of Public Speaking and Presenting

 

 

 

“No audience ever complained about a presentation or speech being too short” 
― Stephen Keague, The Little Red Handbook of Public Speaking and Presenting

 

 

“The crowd shouldn't dictate your performance” 
― Bernard Kelvin Clive

 

 

“Some people talk too much without saying a lot.” 
― Mokokoma Mokhonoana

 

 

 

We Can't

 It's so difficult to talk or say something in front of people

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Imagine you are in a 

 

 

 

 

Try to make some kinda chit-chat... there... you are going to fail

 

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So many people are watching

 

 

or even

 

 

 

 

Here...

 

 

so many people

 

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again another failure

 

 

or

 

 

 

 

You are again going to fail

 

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Again and again

 

 

doesn't matter where and when you gonna fail..

 

 

if you are last few years have been spend around the social media and games on the computer... enormous depression and anxiety you have.

 

 

 

 

This is not a lie, but a fact!

Content How to Talk to Anyone (Junior Talker #1) Quotes We Can't

 

 

 

 

Part 1

 

 

Chapter 1 - Just Start Chapter 1.1. - Just Start (Part 2) Chapter 2 - Secrets Chapter 2.1. - This Guy Did it!? Chapter 3 - Why Discipline Beats Motivation Every Time (Part 1) Chapter 3.1. - Why Discipline Beats Motivation Every Time (Part 2) Chapter 4 - How to Talk (Part 1) Chapter 4.1 - How to Talk (Part 2)

 

 

Part 2

 

 

 

Chapter 1 - Learn Chapter 1.1 - Challenge Chapter 2 - Social Barrier Chapter 3 - Fuck Chapter 4 - Self-Criticize Chapter 5 - School Sucks

 

 

 

Part 3

 

 

 

Chapter 6 - Excuses - NO ACTION Chapter 7 - Reason and Faces Chapter 8 - Why Mr. Nice % And why not Mr. Badass? Chapter 9 - Let's Talk Chapter 10 - Insult and Naked (Execise) Chapter 10.1 - And!? (Part 1) Chapter 10.2 - And!? (Part 2) Chapter 11 - It's Easy (Rules) (Part 1) Chapter 11.1 - It's Easy (Rules) (Part 2) Chapter 11.2 - Concepts (Part 1) Chapter 11.3 - Concepts (Part 2) Chapter 11.4 - Savender Way (Lie) Chapter 12 - Comedians (Truth) & Looner Chapter 13 - Try Again (Part 1) Chapter 13.1 - Try Again (Part 2)

 

 

Part 4

 

 

 

Chapter 13.2 - Try Again (Part 3) Chapter 13.3 - Body (Part 1) Chapter 13.4  - Body (Part 2) Chapter 13.5 - Body (Part 3) Chapter 14 - New Level

 

Part 1

 So that happen!

Chapter 1- Just Start

 

 

Sex is all about inserting a dick in the ass or in the mouth or in the vagina or wahtever place...

 

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The same and here

 

 

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Take a step and do it!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

How to Overcome the I Don’t Know What to Say Syndrome

 

 

 

“There is no such thing as a worthless conversation, provided you know what to listen for. And questions are the breath of life for a conversation.”
James Nathan Miller

 

“If you have an important point to make, don’t try to be subtle or clever. Use a pile driver. Hit the point once. Then come back and hit it again. Then hit it a third time-a tremendous whack.”

Winston Churchill

 

One of the most common problems that people may run into in conversations – based on my own experiences, emails/comments I get and feedback from people in real life – is that their heads go empty and they don’t know what to say next. The conversation stalls and there is even perhaps an uncomfortable silence.

So how can you overcome this challenge?

Here’s what I do.

 

Why does this problem even come up?

 

First, here’s my short explanation why you might run into this problem. One reason might be that you are simply not prepared or out of your “regular world” (meaning for example that you go to a party to watch the finals in the world championship in rugby but know nothing about the sport while the other people are huge fans).

But a more common reason why you may run into this problem is that you feel that you need to say the “right thing”. You may want to not want to appear stupid by saying the wrong things or asking the wrong question. Or you want to impress someone.

 

1. You don’t have to be perfect.

 

Realize that you don’t always have to have the best answer or say the perfect thing. No one is expecting that except you.
Setting such ridiculous expectations just screws with your mind and improves nothing. Instead it can lead to a sort of performance anxiety that winds up paralyzing your mind. And so you don’t know what to say next.

 

2. Don’t think too much.

 

When you think too much you tend to have your focus inwards. You become self conscious, start to question yourself and fear what the future may bring. You get stuck between options for what to say and nothing comes out.

If you instead bring your awareness back the present moment you shift your focus outwards again. You notice what the people you are talking to are actually saying, what is happening in your conversation and around you.

This is the natural headspace stay in when you’re in a conversation. It’s a place where you probably are most of the time with your closest friends and family.

 

So how do you get into this comfortable and social headspace?

Breathe or observe. The simplest way to reconnect with the now is to just focus on your breathing or to observe and take in your surroundings with all your senses for just a minute. Assume rapport. Basically, instead of going into a conversation or meeting nervously and thinking “how will this go?” you assume that you and the person(s) will establish a good connection (rapport). How do you do that? Just before the meeting, you just think/pretend that you’ll be meeting a good friend. Then you’ll naturally slip into a more comfortable, confident and enjoyable emotional state and frame of mind. In this state of mind conversation tends to flow more naturally without much thinking. Just like with your friends.

You may want to do a combination of breathing to relax if you feel tense and stressed and then you assume rapport to bring yourself into an even more positive headspace. Going straight from nervous to assuming rapport successfully may be too big of a leap.

 

3. Tap into curiosity.

 

When you are stuck in some kind of negative emotional state then you are closed up. You tend to create division in your world and mind. You create barriers between you and other things/people.

Curiosity on the other hand is filled with anticipation and enthusiasm. It opens you up. And when you are open and enthusiastic then you have more fun things to think about than focusing on your nervousness or fear. So be curious.

But when you are curious, don’t get stuck in the questions game where the conversation turns into an interrogation. Mix the questions up with making statements. Instead of asking what someone’s favorite film is just tell them what your favorite one is and the let them continue from that statement.

 

4. Associate.

 

Find something in what you are already talking about to help you move into the next topic. The topic of fishing lure commercials on TV can help you bounce over to the time you and your uncle got trapped in boat without fuel while fishing. And then you and the people in the conversation can go on to talking about family or the oil problems the world is facing.

You can also find inspiration for topics by simply observing your surroundings.

 

5. Prepare.

 

The tips above should help you out but if you get really stuck anyway then you may want prepare and have a few topics in your mental backpocket.

 

The person you are talking to. Again, curiosity is good because people like to talk about themselves. Passions. People love to share positive emotions and usually like to know what makes the other person tick. Watercooler topics and the news. It never hurts to be updated on what’s happening in the world.

 

6. Do the right thing.

 

This is more of a long-term solution but it makes conversations and just about anything easier and makes your life flow in a natural way.

If your thoughts and actions aren’t in harmony then you don’t feel so good about yourself. You feel like you are disappointing yourself and your self esteem sinks. If you