How to Talk to Anyone (Junior Talker #3) - DeYtH Banger (bts book recommendations TXT) 📗

next she seems to be unaware of your existence. One minute she's flirting, and smiling, and rubbing up against you, and the next minute she's gone, left without even saying "bye." You SHOULD be frustrated and confused!

Now, no one knows exactly why women give off such mixed signals and deliberately, it seems, attempt to confuse us. Some suspect it's those magazines they read. Others think it has to do with the secret bathroom conferences they hold. Still others propose that their illogical behaviors are due to the wacky hormones they have surging throughout their bodies. The cause is relatively unimportant. You just have to accept it, and plot your strategy to deal with it.

So, given the inconsistencies of female romantic behavior, attempting to "read" women and figure out what they're thinking, is, at best, an incredibly frustrating experience. So don't do it. Don't even attempt it.

Just say NO to "reading" women!

Okay... well... if you don't really try to "read" women to determine whether they like you or not, then what do you do? What's your strategy? After all, they may be confusing, illogical, and somewhat annoying, but you still wanna get you one.

Simple...

 

If you're attracted to a girl, then just ASSUME she's attracted to you too. And ACT ACCORDINGLY!

 

Assume that she likes you and would like to get to know you better. Assume that she's physically attracted to you. Assume that YOU HAVE WHAT IT TAKES to attract such a lady, no matter how incredible she seems.

Assume the positive... always the positive. Assuming the negative will kill any chances you might have with her. (Pessimists, my friend, are not "chick magnets.")

Now there are many exciting benefits of adopting this attitude of assuming that women you like also like you... and treating them accordingly.

 

 

For one, if you refuse to obsess about all the little "signs" she's giving you, whether they be good signs or bad signs, you will feel more relaxed, calm, and confident. You won't be "up" one minute because she smiled at you, and "down" the next because she also smiled at some other guy.

 

Attempting to "read" her will only lead to confusion, frustration, and anxiety. And this will make you more tense when she's around, and thus, less likely to be the charming, charismatic Don Juan that you'd like to be.

 

And you also won't be wasting your time trying to figure out what she's thinking... trying to figure out what every little move means... and where you stand. You'll be able to devote your "mental time" to something more useful and productive.

Secondly, if you just assume that she likes you, then you will actually increase the probability that she eventually WILL like you. This is known as a self-fulfilling prophecy, and is a well-documented phenomenon in psychological research.

Basically what this means is that if you have a "she likes me" attitude, then you'll project positive, optimistic behaviors and thoughts. She'll pick up on these and ... like you.

 

If, on the other hand, you have a "she doesn't like me" attitude, you'll project negative, pessimistic behaviors and thoughts. She'll, likewise, pick up on these and ... not like you.

 

And if you have a "does she like me" attitude, then you'll project tense, anxiety-ridden behaviors and thoughts that will decrease the probability of her liking you... or she may even find being around you to be an "uncomfortable" experience. (Isn't it easier to relax around people who are relaxed themselves?)

And third, the attitude of just assuming that she likes you, rather than worrying about whether she does or not, allows you to maintain control of the situation... and yourself.

 

If you are obsessing about the "signs" and allow the "signs" to control your behaviors, thoughts, and emotions, then you have basically given her complete control of the situation. And complete control over you!

If she's "good" to you, you're happy. If she's "bad" to you, you're sad. If she wants to encourage you, she can throw out a few positive signals. If she wants to discourage you, she can throw out a few negative signals. Your happiness is basically under her control... whether she knows it or not.

 

Not the position that a "Don Juan" likes to be in. Not the position that you want to be in.

However, if you just assume that she likes you and treat her accordingly, and refuse to be controlled by all the little signs (especially the bad ones), you take charge of the situation. You have decided that you like her. And you have decided that she likes you... or will like you when she gets to know you better. And you act accordingly.

You exude confidence. You're relaxed. And you project that "aura" that every budding Don Juan searches for. (The poor girl won't stand a chance up against that aura!)

Okay, so you agree that obsessing about a particular girl and whether or not she likes you is not in your best interest. It will turn you into a Blithering Blob of Insecurity, decrease the probability that she will like you, and give her complete control over your happiness.

So what do you do when those thoughts start to take over your mind? I mean, after all, she is a Goddess, right?

Here's one simple little mental trick that might help you...

Whenever the obsessive "does she like me" thoughts start to take over your mind, even if they're the "good" ones, mentally grab them with your hands, throw them down on the floor, and step on them. Then remind yourself that obsessing about her is not in your best interest, that it will suck away your confidence, and actually decrease the probability that you'll eventually get her.

At this point you want to take a deep breath... smile... laugh... and think to yourself...

"I should send that Allen guy a few bucks."

 

 

 

C H A P T E R _ Z E R O - Dash (Part 8)

 The moment when information or details are out of your control, this is the moment in which you pray to god to get something so to continue the whole thing... but in the end no prayer can help you!

 

 

Become Confident Around Women in 4 Simple Steps

by Jason Rogers

 

 

 

 

I mean, that’s what you want... isn’t it?

You want to feel calm, confident, and composed around women. You know that if you could consistently feel this way around the most attractive women, that your dating life would skyrocket.

Luckily, there’s a way.

What follows is the step-by-step sequence I lead my clients through who desire confidence around attractive women. Follow these four steps and you too will experience a whole new level of confidence around women.

Best of all? These 4-steps consistently deliver guys who follow them real results in under 30 days. With that said, why delay? Let’s dive into this bad boy, shall we?

 

Step One: Approach One Attractive Woman Tomorrow

 

That’s it.

Just meet one attractive woman you didn’t know during your day or evening, tomorrow.

This can be a woman from a different department at work. It can be a cutie who’s in line next to you in the grocery store. Chat up a cutie in the bar after work. Or, approach that foxy brunette sitting there on the park bench.

The specifics here don’t matter. All that matters is you approach one attractive woman tomorrow. Be resourceful and get the job done.

As for what to say? You can bookmark this guide if you’re looking for tons of flirting examples. But don’t overcomplicate things. Simply introducing yourself and starting a chat with a cutie is the only goal.

 

Step Two: Learn One Lesson from Your Interaction

 

The “result” of your interaction does not matter. It doesn’t matter worth a shit. The goal isn’t to “woo” this one woman. The goal is to become permanently confident around attractive women for a lifetime.

Therefore, as soon as you finish your conversation, your mission is simple: learn one lesson from your interaction. Here’s what you wanna do...

Ask yourself the following question the instant you leave the conversation.

“What’s the number one thing I can learn from that interaction that will help me get a better result next time?”

By immediately asking yourself this question, two things happen.

First, you’ll be surprised what sage like advice your brain gives you. Especially since you read new content like this, your brain has lots of dating wisdom stored. Now? You’re going to give yourself realtime feedback.

Secondly, by asking yourself this question the second after your conversation finishes, you’re training yourself to let go of the outcome — whether it’s a good one or a bad one. This detachment from the validation (or lack thereof) from a sexy woman is paramount.

By not focusing on what she said or how she responded, you’re training yourself tosurge with confidence no matter what happens when you’re around attractive women.

Religiously practicing step two after your approaches is how you can become that “no fucks given” kinda guy that women crave.

 

Step Three: Validate Yourself with Well Earned, Positive Self Talk

 

You did it, my man. You approached a foxy chica. Then? You learned a personalized nugget of wisdom that’ll make you more smooth around the next attractive woman you talk to.

Honestly, getting to step three isn’t easy for most guys.

As a result, and in order to ensure you stay healthfully detached of the opinion of the sexy woman you just approached, now it’s time to pat yourself on the back.

Yes, you can literally, physically, pat yourself on the back. But what’s more important is the inner-self validation. Make sure you tell yourself something positive.

For example, you may say to yourself, “Nice job bro. That took courage. Way to take action.” This is the type of “patting on the back” I’m referring to.

Again, validating yourself after each interaction with positive self talk is crucial to both your confidence and for cultivating a positive outlook regardless of outcome.

Equally, patting yourself on the back with positive self talk (and perhaps a literal pat on the back too) fuels you with the motivation you’re going to want in order to tackle step four...

 

Step Four: Repeat Steps 1, 2, and 3 Each Day for the Next Month

 

Rome wasn’t built in a day. You can’t expect to transform your confidence around women by simply talking to an attractive woman one time!

That said, by following the aforementioned step-by-step sequence with discipline over the next 30 days, you’ll be amazed at how much progress you can make!

By committing to this process for the next month, what you’ll notice is your confidence compounds on itself.

You’ll learn more about women, yourself, sexuality, and social dynamics by taking action on this process for 30 straight days, than you ever could from reading blogs and watching videos alone.

The truth is that real knowledge comes from real world experience. Likewise, as long as you steadfastly commit to steps 2 and 3 each day you approach, there’s no need to fear whether or not you get results. This isn’t about “getting her number” or adding a “notch” to your bedpost.

Think of this 30 day challenge as a training regimen. Because in truth, this 30 day challenge is a regimen — that’ll ensure you’re able to get real dating results for a lifetime.

So let go of the need for her validation! Say screw it to your fears! And follow these four steps. You can do this!

 

 

 

 

The Top 10 Attraction Secrets Women Know That Men Don't

 

by Joseph Matthews

 

 

 

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