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Even right now while you will reading this article your mind will try to avoid the tricky part where you’ll find yourself fitting in. And you don’t want to admit it.
Now let’s see what other difficulties you are avoiding:
We all have tasks at work, but we already assumed them as “difficult” and start to check news feed on our Facebook profiles, messages and notification. When we face with some difficulty, we usually advise ourselves “It’s OK, I’ll do it later when I am more in the mood.” And we’ll take the break and go for a beer or two with our friends because we need to chill out, right? When a problem comes out, our instant reaction is to put it aside; to handle it later. We put off reading long emails for later, paying bills and taxes for until the deadline comes and so on, again, just because we assumed them as complicated or huge time-consumers. We skip the gym because is challenging and the results do not show after few days.
Tell me something, am I right? Are you avoiding difficulties at this moment? I want you to this, think for a minute what important you are avoiding right now. It is interesting, but you will notice something, and that’s beginning of my “face everything” method.
First let’s agree on this and see why it is just the way that it is: Avoidance won’t work in the long run!
It’s in our human nature to avoid pain instead of facing everything. Our defense mechanism will put it aside and mark as “do it later activity.” There is a result when you avoid facing everything, temporary relief.
By relegating important and “difficult” tasks, we are making the situation much worse than it is. Just think of one work that you’ve assigned and waited until the deadline. What you’ve met there, chaos, rush and a lot of stress because then you were in doubts if you were going to finish it on time. This happened to you, right?
Now let’s bring “Face Everything technique” on the table:
1. Ask yourself this question: What the hell I’m doing now?
Make this issue be your daily reminder which will put you schedule each time when you’ll think to put some tasks under the carpet. Simply by asking this question, you’ll see what you are doing. Either scrolling on Instagram or checking your Facebook groups, but it’s not what you are supposed to do.
2. The second question from face everything technique: What I’m avoiding or what I’m trying to avoid?
Think about a task you’ve abandoned and started doing something else. Yeah, dig deeper, and you’ll find it. What happened, what made you leave the task? It’s beginning to become challenging and the discomfort started to grow isn’t it? Now, get back on the same task and face everything in between and you’ll see there is nothing to fear. Only name it!
3. Face everything for that particular task or thing!
What is preventing you from doing it? Fear, pain or discomfort, what’s that? Be honest with you and admit why you want to relegate it. No, be more observant and don’t listen to your body what is telling you. Don’t pay attention to the feelings attached to that thing. Confront it, face everything and you’ll see there is no room for fear. It cannot bite you (of course,if your task isn’t showering lions).
4. You face everything, and now you are ready to take massive action!
You’ve observed, you found why and you are ready for the next step – Plan how to do it! Forget about fear. You are an adult, and you cannot allow yourself to behave like a scared child. You felt fear, a BIG deal, erase that word from your vocabulary and with massive action start moving forward, never backward. If you still have doubts about your plan how to do it just talk to someone. Exhaust all the options and then, action!
Face everything method can be very effective unless the difficulty is not something else and you cannot apply it. I can promise you this if you start to face everything, but wisely, you will see that your limitation will just evaporate and you’ll become more productive and more self-confident than ever.
If you are on managerial position, teach your assistants how to handle things according to this face everything method, and you will see how the organization you are working will improve. Your employees won’t avoid the arduous task. Also teach your kids on this approach, at later ages, they will be very grateful.
There are other interesting phenomena. It will occur right after you finish with reading. It is because you will start thinking how to face everything you’ve abandoned. But you’ll see how an excuse will arise, telling you to avoid this article “what they know about complicated things.”
Believe me; that’s avoidance. Your mind is making an excuse in an attempt to skip facing things from under the carpet.
We hope that we are helping with our articles. Stay strong and don’t forget to share your opinion on our method. Also tell us if you are using different techniques for facing difficult task or things. We would be grateful to hear your story.
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Change Your Mindset by Asking the Right Questions
When I finally arrived in the U.S. for my Olympic training, I saw a beautiful stadium in front of me. I was ready and excited to start my warmup. Then suddenly I got confused, wondering how many laps I was supposed to run. I froze from the realization that I was one of the top javelin throwers in the world but had no idea how to do a warmup. I was good at taking direction, but now I was half a world away from my coach.
The immersion into a new country, outside of my comfort zone and away from my coach prompted a lifelong interest in how the brain works. It eventually led me to launch an online training course that asks you questions every day for 30 days—each answer representing a certain mindset to help people achieve their goals.
I believe it’s asking people the right questions, instead of telling them what to do, that creates success, that pushes people to be successful. Questions push people to figure out the answers on their own. The question system has been used by coaches of elite athletes and almost all therapists. It’s helpful in discovering a person’s individual way of thinking and their mental blocks, and in applying specific mindsets to help them achieve their goals.
The philosophy is simple: Asking the right questions gives people the answers they need to move forward in life. We need to start looking at our dreams practically. Simply put, our dreams are the problems we have to learn to solve. Dreams are called “dreams” for a reason—it is something better than what we have now. And to achieve what’s better, we have to start finding new solutions; we have to learn new ways to think.
Dan Lange, one of my coaches, trained based on questions. Every day he asked everybody how they felt. Answering “fine” was not going to do it. We had to be precise with this question to understand how we felt physically, mentally and emotionally. Depending on the answers we provided, the training for the day was designed for us to reach our optimal results. With this method, Lange’s athletes learned how much their mental and emotional states affected results and how to improve. We were building ourselves from the core.
Here are the benefits of asking questions that you can start asking today:
1. We learn about life through questions
It is scientifically proven that we learn about life by asking questions. Children naturally start learning about the world by observing, testing and asking “why.” Through questions, children learn the cause-and-effect relationship and, most important, the meaning of words.
2. The more information we have, the easier we will ask the right questions
Unfortunately, with age and responsibilities, the questioning stops and we settle for the few options that we have learned. The minute those options don’t work, we get stuck. Whenever we experience an obstacle, our brain goes to the fastest pattern it can find from our experiences similar to the current situation. This is why we sometimes have illogical reactions: We do not give time for the brain to find a better solution. The more information and experiences we have, the more options we have to solve our problems.
3. The quality of our lives depends on questions that we ask
The quality of our lives is directly related to the quality of our thinking. “The quality of our thinking, in turn, is determined by the quality of our questions, for questions are the engine, the driving force behind thinking.” — The Miniature Guide to the Art of Asking Essential Questions
4. Questioning makes you smarter
Questioning forms new patterns in the brain. The more patterns it forms, the more flexible it becomes. With flexibility, it can access more information already stored in your brain instead of reverting to the old patterns.
5. Questioning makes you more open
With flexible brain you become more open, more perceptive of many different perspectives and less biased in your decisions.
6. Asking the right questions creates happiness
We all know how peace and harmony feels, but not many of us take a minute to understand what causes these feelings. When we entertain this deep question, we start understanding how to feel at peace more often. We realize we are the creators of our feelings; they don’t just happen to us.
Chapter 11 - Forward
Let's go forward... how does it sound... when you are left abandoned... and feel depression and stress if you have this kinda of doze it's normal to be masturbating at porn... porn is always here goes hands in hands and poeple on the phone ... always leave you alone. I am not saying it's a good habbit, it has never been and it will never be. But it happens such stuff...
1 - Level - Is Addiction (Just doing it... because of pleasure)
2 - Level - Is Recovery (It's kinda of recovery... but not really one... in the end of few weeks or after few days or after a month you just come back...)
- It's normal to come back because of the reality... reality it's screw up... people promise that this is going to happen... life is going to be better... life won't be so paintful, life will be incredible. I decided to stop so much horror stories and to focus on self-help books... I have problems... I have to fix my life... no need after a erotic comic or after a pornographic content to crave for fucked up content.
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We just need to push forward!
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