Straight Talk, No Pretense - Abasiodiong Ekarika (love novels in english .txt) 📗

God to action. When praying to God for a life partner be intentional about it. Make requests, don’t ask questions. “God when “is not a prayer but a question, “God where is my own “is not a prayer but a question. Stop asking questions instead make requests.

Don’t narrate your life story when you are praying rather remind God of where he is taking you to and thank him in advance. Don’t start sleeping, if you really want to sleep lay your head and sleep. If it persists in every prayer session command that demon of sleep away in the name of Jesus. Don’t lie on how you are aging fast and you have nothing to show for it. Shut up, the fact that you are life is enough reason to be grateful to God. Many people have died and people are dying, many are sickly, many don’t even have the opportunity to have a partner that just want to survive.

Don’t exaggerate when praying. If you are above average don’t complain to God that you are miserly and you want him to bless you with a rich partner. You scorn those who don’t even have, you scorn those who are begging to survive, and you scorn the disabled who are trying to be stable financially, change. Instead of exaggerating remind God of your service in his kingdom, remind God of his promises to you-there are written in the Bible.

Pray asking in the name of Jesus. The Bible teaches that whatever we ask in the name of Jesus will be answered. This is a power work in it and perform acts that will form an agreement between you and God that your prayers will be answered.

Be honest, you alone know your flaws, you alone know what you do in the darkest hour. If you need to seek for mercy from God don’t hesitate to do it. If you have committed a sin against your body and against God ask for mercy. Speak to God on where you’ve gone wrong and how much you’ve changed by his help. Cry to God to renew and purify you. Cry unto God to set you aside as a vessel.

If you are lost to the world you will obtain no portion in Christ because God is not your King but Satan. To partake in the blessing of God accept Christ as your Lord and King. God is waiting for you, it’s not too late come into the full salvation in Christ. Appreciate the fact that God gave his only son to die for you and that he lives you. If you did things you are not proud of empty yourself to God, only God can understand why you committed such an act not a man or even the God sent you are praying for.

Listen to God. When you pray wait to hear from God also. Listen attentively, don’t bring your emotions to the discussion, ask questions, and seek for clarification. God is always speaking so make it a duty to always listen to him. Listening to God gives insight, it grants you understanding on what should happen and why, it strengthens you and it gives you a personal conviction.

You’ll not need to depend on a pastor for word on your live life before you know what God is saying. Your pastor is a human like you, he has his life and he is taking charge if it. Take charge of your life, your pastor cannot be the driver of your life.

Study the word, read the Bible with the inspiration of the Holy Spirit. Don’t read with your own understanding, ask that the Holy Spirit grants you an understanding of all that has been written. Read the Bible and know how the early Christians lived. Learn how they could manage pressure, learn how they could wait patiently for the manifestation of God’s word and promises. A single Christian lady or man who studies the Bible is different from a single man or woman who does not.

Studying the words grants you access to God’s word, it opens you up, it propels you, it gives you a conviction not to settle for less, it gives you the boldness to tell the devil that he is a loser and you are more than conqueror.

Know what God is leading you to. Man/woman don’t force your choice on God, choose to either obey God or fail in your marriage. If God is not leading you to marry a man/woman don’t make statements of how God told you in your dream they she is the one for you, don’t buy books on marriage to gift them. Respect yourself. If God is leading you to marry a man/woman have a personal conviction and take steps to appreciate the man/woman. Don’t start bombarding them with verses from Songs of Solomon, don’t send unnecessary text message, don’t call her mama, be able to go on a date and discuss like human beings, don’t be fidgeting or speaking in a way that you will not be understood.

If God has led you to marry a man/woman he will perfect it. Don’t rush the timing, be calm. Slow and steady wins the race.

Note impressions, impressions are divine inspirations. God put it into your heart to marry a man but that does not determine that it is final. When you have impressions speak to God, be sure it’s from God and seek wisdom form God in how to do that which you have been tasked.

Pray effectively. It is common knowledge that you are praying for a life partner however when you pray, pray with thanksgiving. Thank God for the marriage, thank God for a blessed process, thank God for your future husband/wife life, thank God because him/her to be better and thank God for your unborn children. Thank God in everything and for everything. Let it be a culture.

Be humble, come to the altar of prayer with humility. God hates a proud man/woman. You are not doing God a favor by praying for your life partner but you are doing yourself a favor. Even though you are doubtful about what can do be humble to ask, be humble to seek him and be humble to worship him steadfastly.

Be consistent in prayer, pray fervently. Don’t relent in praying. The fervent prayer if the righteous avail much. Pray not because you have a request, pray for others, pray for the nation, pray. Even when your prayers are answered still pray. Someone somewhere needs a favor from God which you have been blessed with so pray let God grant his/her desires.

Chapter 12: Locating a man

 It’s not abnormal to attend that wedding with a thought that your potential husband could be there, it is not abnormal that you are attending a birthday, training, seminar, church even or any gathering with a thought that your life partner could be there. You are not alone, many are doing same. It is not out rightly wrong to meet your life partner in such places however it is vital that you search in the right places.

A man/woman who desires to marry a Christian man/lady must search for them where they can be found and that is in Christ. One does not need to go to a club house where he/she will have to order a drink, light a cigarette or shisha and grind with the stripers, expecting to find her. You can never find a Christian man/lady in such an area. The Christian man/woman who claims to be evangelizing there must be properly questioned. Evangelizing does not require a Christian man/woman to act out the sins of those in the world but stir them with the word of God into repentance.

If you are searching for a man/woman who has a good dress sense you’ll never find one if you can’t dress well. If you wear revealing clothes you can never locate a man/woman who covers his/her body, you’ll fail perpetually because you are not the same and God can never pair his own with a rouge. Furthermore, you will never locate a man/woman who has been worked on yet you are unchanged. If your attitude is zero, if you are visionless, if you are lousy, if you are dirty you can never be in a relationship with anyone who has his/her life fixed and his/her issues addressed. Go and work on yourself.

Package yourself, look presentable, nobody has it right in this life so don’t make it look like life has always been unfavorable to you. Know yourself, appreciate yourself, improve yourself, stop being lazy, discover purpose and fulfill purpose. If you have seen a man/woman you have an interest in let him/her know your intentions and be able to walk off if you are rejected. It doesn’t hurt trying. Never imply a relationship because you feel he/she shares the same feelings with you. Most times human beings mistake agape love for romantic attraction. Control yourself and trust God to guide you. Never trust your feelings, these days what is called intuition is just accumulated decisions and ideas of a man/woman nothing serious and nothing more.

Place a value on yourself but not excessively and unnecessarily. If as a woman you are trying to play “hard to get “know when it gets extreme. No one is cheap but we have insecure people. The person who categorizes you as cheap has an identity issue and a low self-esteem. If you are attracted to someone and he/she is attracted to you move forward, stop wasting time in the name of proving your worth.

If you are willing to love despite what you’ve faced always remember that everyone are not the same. The man who raped you is a man without self-control and he will face the consequences but your life partner is not a rapist and will never be one. If a woman frustrated you and emptied you she is manipulative but your future partner is different. Make decisions and don’t judge people based on your experience, everyone is different.

Constantly remember that the man who will marry you will not want to have sex with you before marriage, he will respect God enough to obey his instructions. Don’t lose yourself for a man/woman because in the end he/she can leave you and settle down with another who is far more better than you and a better role model to his/her children.

Chapter 13: Saying No to other Persons

Human beings love attention and you are no exception. When you are committed to a relationship you should