How to Talk to Anyone (Junior Talker #3) - DeYtH Banger (bts book recommendations TXT) 📗

that night.



#F*CKINGDOPE



But there was a few guys who HATED that some "dating coach" was giving them advice...



One guy replied to a comment of mine, and said "I don't need your advice. I'm a master at game. My results speak for themselves."



... Reactive much?



Another guy replied to my comment and called me (and I quote) a "dum cunt"



... couldn't even spell "dumb" right?



When I see men who REACT in negative ways, and try to PROVE themselves, and their worth to the world... I know that is a NON-confident person.



If there is one thing you remember from this email, remember this...



"The loudest guy in the room has

the MOST to prove."



Period.



So back to my definition of #RAW Confidence:



You know WHO you are.

You know WHAT you stand for.

You know WHERE you're going.

And you don't feel the need to prove yourself to anybody.



Here's a personal example...



I recently hit 6500 subscribers on my Youtube channel.



Which is dope.



And we're only getting started. My goal is 1 MILLION.



But what a lot of guys probably don't realize is that it took me making 200+ videos JUST to get that many subscribers...


And for at least the first 60 of those videos, almost NOBODY was watching.



It's what keeps you hustling when the cards are stacked against you...



If I didn't know WHO I was, WHAT I stood for, and WHERE I was going... Then I would have quit making videos a LOOOONG time ago.



But luckily, I kept making videos because I KNEW that my advice had the ability to change lives.



I didn't make them to PROVE myself to anybody else. If anything, I made the videos for ME.



And look at us now... We're growing faster than ever!



That my friend is true, #RAW masculine confidence.



So here's how this applies to you...



The next time a girl looks at you and smiles. How are you going to interpret that?



You can think "this girl is making fun of me" or "this girl is clearly attracted to me."



Whatever you CHOOSE to think will show in your demeanor.



Based on how you interpret the situation, people will see your confidence (or lack of it).



Or what about this situation...



When you have a crucial business deal coming in, and the other person makes an offer that OFFENDS you...



Will you get mad, or reactive?



Or will you politely reject them, and move on with your life BECAUSE you have confidence that your money/success will come regardless of how this deal plays out...?



This actually happened to me recently, too!



This company named Jawzrsize hit me up, and wanted me to make a video promoting their product... (a product that is supposed to make your jaw more chiseled... But as a former Dental student, I'm 99% sure it will injure your jaw before it helps it)



Here's what they said:





...In other words, he wanted me to say that the tips I gave in my video were all SH*T compared to using his product.

Did I respond by getting offended?

Did I become reactive?

Did I sell out for the money?

ABSOLUTELY NOT.

I requested 10x more money to give an HONEST review!



And I made it clear that either way, I'm good. Money or no money.

THAT, my friend, is RAW confidence.

And it's also how you get your way in life, with the least amount of stress possible.

So let me ask you, are you going to start cultivating RAW masculine confidence in your own life??

The choice is completely up to YOU.



Hope that helps.

 

Chapter 7 - Let's Talk (Part 2)

 The TRUTH about never running out of things to say

 

 

 

 

True "Authenticity"

WTF does that even mean -- "authentic"

Have you ever heard B.S. dating and social advice like "just be yourself"?

Or "the nice guy always wins"...

It's the crap that your mother fills you with when you're a young lad just trying to hustle his way through life.

And although, yes, it IS crap...

I want to take a few sex today to tell you about my take on "Just Be Yourself."

It works.

It truly is good advice. It just happens to normally come from someone who doesn't know what the f*ck they're talking about.

Which is why ya boi is about to tell you exactly HOW and WHY to just be yourself, bro.

Now I often get asked things like "What do I say to a girl when I walk up to her and approach her?"

"What should I have said in 'x' situation when I wanted to approach that girl?"

Or "I was talking to this girl, and I said an 'opener' that I learned... But then I ran out of things to say. What should I have done?"

And here's the hard cold TRUTH...

I could never tell you the "right" thing to say.

What you say is almost irrelevant.

In fact it's been scientifically proven that the actual content of your words is only 7% of the impression you're making in that moment.

The other 93% is made up of Body Language, and Vocal Tonality.

Let's do a thought experiment right now...

Imagine this:

Think really hard about the time you first met your best friend.

Like seriously think about it.

Picture it.

What happened?

Where were you at?

How did you meet?

What were you doing?

What did it smell like?

Did you like them at first, or did it take some time?

The TRUTH is...

You are probably really good at remembering what happened and all the other fine details. However...

You probably have no clue the exact words that were exchanged, and what your conversations were about.

You really only remember how those conversations made you feel.

So HERE is the hard cold truth about "what you say" during conversation when you meet a girl...

You will NEVER be laying in bed with some girl you just seduced, and then hear her say... "You know Deyth, your seduction was really good, however your opening line needed some work. Seriously, that sh!t was weak."

She will NEVER say that!

The only thing she is going to remember is HOW she felt about what you were saying to her.

And now that we know this law of attractively conversing, let's get down to what your REAL enemy is here.

Your own worst enemy in banging the women of your choice is:

Are you acting in a way that makes her raise her defenses?

A good friend of mine, Marni The Wing Girl made a great point to me the other day...

She said that women are masters at reading if you are lying or not. They have to be.

Back in the day, when we were all cave people, the men would go out and hunt for dinner, while the women were left behind to protect the cave...

So in order to protect the humble abode, she had decipher if some random stranger passing by the cave was trustworthy or not...

In order to do this women became very good at QUICKLY reading subtle social cues.

She had to decipher if this man was being TRUE to himself (aka trustworthy) or if something fishy was going on here.

That's why if you roll up to a woman and say something that you don't really want to say JUST because some "dating coach" told you it would work, then chances are you're f*cked.

And even if she does give you any attention, you'll still have to spend time/energy making up for your un-authentic "opening line".

It's like starting from behind the finish line.

At the end of the day, this all comes down to that very common buzz word that the dating industry likes to throw around like Molly's at the EDM concert...

CONGRUENCE.

I mean just imagine a curious little child...

They are the most Charismatic people around.

They'll walk up to anybody, touch everything, and say exactly how they feel.

If they're mad, they cry. If they're happy, they smile wide.

They keep it at all times.

And it's no wonder that it's next to impossible to hate a little baby.

Just like it's impossible to hate a puppy.

Here's my advice...

The absolute best thing you can say at any moment is this -- Exactly what you feel like saying.

If you're nervous, say "I'm nervous."

If you're curious, ask her what you're curious about.

If you hate that the world is being controlled like mindless sheep walking off of a cliff all because of this "Pokemon Go" bullsh!t, say it.

If you feel like an icy cold pimp, roll up and just say "Hi".

Chances are if your nonverbals are on point, and you're doing it because it's what you truly feel in that moment, then IT WILL WORK.

This is why if you asked a super self-entertaining/charming dude "what did you say", he'd have trouble remembering so he could tell you.

People have always said this about me my whole life...

"Patrick, you're probably just as surprised at the words that come out of your mouth, as everybody else is."

And yes, it's true.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Can you handle this TENSION? (Q+A)

 

 

 

 

 

 

The subtle art of being in f*c.king CONTROL...

Are you in control my handsome friend?



You see, most people ask me ON THE REGULAR... "Patrick. How do I become magnetic?"



Seems like a simple question right?



"How do I get other people to want to be around me?"



"How do I get women to want to want to be around me?"



"...To make the first move on me?"



"...To be the one doing all the work to pursue me?"



I mean it's all pretty much the same question at the end of the day.



And it's a question that MOST "gurus" have absolutely no clue how to answer correctly.



But I'm about to blow your mind with today's email because I recently got a question that deals completely with this conundrum of being the most MAGNETIC version of yourself.



Here's what was sent...



====-==-============-==

"Hey Patrick ba.dass James,



My questions is not game related.



Here it is...



I've been practicing that piercing eye contact, and girls love it...



But all the people that are supposedly my seniors (teachers etc) get all angry and tell me that I am a shameless arrogant kid for holding eye contact with them.



What do I do?



Peace and thanks in advance."

-Karl D.

===-==--==-====-=======--====-=

Great question Karl.

And I thought it was interesting that you said this "isn't" a game related question because the truth is, it is!

Anything that helps out your social skills. Your charisma. Your EYE CONTACT...

Will also help out your success with women!

So don't get it twisted big guy, this is completely related to your game.

That said, let's crush this question...

Going back to the very beginning of this email...

DO YOU KNOW WHY GREAT EYE CONTACT IS SO MAGNETIC?

The only reason having the ability to hold strong, dominant, and piercing eye contact is so seductive is because it implies that you are IN CONTROL.

You can keep your cool under tension.

And your ability to control yourself under tension allows you to now become the FACILITATOR of tension.

Se.xual tension.

Social tension.

Tension is the key.

Because people who are magnetic simply have 1 super power...

The ability to Create, and Facilitate tension.

Because let's face it... Tension is the force that DRIVES action.

It's a law of the universe.

Why do you eat food?

Because that feeling of TENSION in your stomach told your brain that you were hungry, and that you should eat some food.

Why does the earth move in circles around the sun?

Because there is tension called GRAVITY between the Earth and the Sun that keeps this giant rock we live on from flinging into deep space.

Why does a woman slowly make her way over towards a man that catches her eye?

Because there was something alluring about you that created TENSION and told her to move towards you.

Tension = Attraction =