How to Make Anyone Fall in Love with You by Leil Lowndes (knowledgeable books to read TXT) 📗

Phil told me about a woman he had recently met at a party. He liked her. She seemed to like him. She even hinted she'd enjoy going out with him. While they were chatting, he was contemplating asking her for a date. As a prelude to inviting her to break away from the party and go to a jazz club with him, he alluded to his deep interest in jazz.

"Oh," she said. "I used to go to jazz clubs, but I guess I burned out on them in college." So much for that one.

Then Phil mentioned that the classic filmCasablanca was playing at the arts cinema. "Oh," she said. "Yes, I saw it."

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That was the end of that.

The woman may have known a lot about jazz and old movies, but she had a thing or two to learn about men.

Don't cut them off at the pass. In fact, Huntresses, when you learn what interests him, hint that it's your passion, too. Many men ask a woman out just because she enjoys the same activities that he does.

I have a buddy named Derek, a very good-looking man who lives in Orlando, Florida. Poor Derek is at wit's end because he loves to jet ski every weekend.

He also adores women. Because his free time is limited, he must make a choice.

Derek complains that he just can't find a woman who will jet ski with him. You can bet the first lady who crosses her fingers behind her back and says, "Oh, jet skiing, I've always wanted to try that," will have a date with Derek and a head start on captur ing his heart.

If your Quarry likes stamp collecting, kite flying, or going to sambo wrestling matches, tell him of your fervor for stamps, kites, or sambo wrestlers. Many men have a passion for an activity and a passion for women, but few can blend them.

TECHNIQUE #27

HUNTRESSES): RIDE YOUR QUARRY'S

WAVES

Ride your Quarry's waves. Or his motorcycle, or his horses, or his golf cart. Tell him you love donning your ski pants, your wet suit, your tracksuit, your karategis, or your hiking shorts. Or maybe just your couch-potato teddy so you can enjoy a good football game on TV with him.

Women want to know that, after making love, there will be something totalk about with their man. Men want to know that, after making love, there will be something to dowith their woman.

Similarity Number Two: "Do We Have the Same Basic Beliefs?"

Hunters, beware: this one's more important to women than you think.

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In a university study, researchers introduced young men and women to each other and asked them to go

"have a Coke" together.33 Before they met, some of the couples were told, confidentially, that their blind dates were very similar in their attitudes toward life.

Others were told they were dissimilar. Neither statement was true. However, when quizzed afterward about how much they liked each other, the couples who were previously told they were similar liked each other a lot more—even if they were really very dissimilar. This study proved we are predisposed toward partners we think are just like us.

You have already planted subconscious seeds of similarity through thEechoing technique and Copying Their Class Act . Riding your Quarry's waves made them feel you enjoy the same activities. Now let's go for the punch right in the id, their deeply held beliefs about life. If partners share views on politics, religion, money, and possessions, it augurs well for the relationship. It is important that a new Quarry feel that you share certain values, beliefs, attitudes, and emotions and that you look at the world through the same lens. In the great scheme of getting someone to fall in love with you, it's never too early to start digging for these gems.

Women are especially sensitive to this. In fact, gentlemen, if you share juosnt e strong attitude, it can spark the relationship for a woman. I have a friend, Lucia, who remembers the precise moment she fell in love with her future husband. On their third date, she and Dave were driving back to the city from a Sunday outing. After a late start, they were racing because Dave had a business meeting that evening.

Lucia's big love (before she met Dave) was animals.

She works in an animal shelter and is active in the animal rights movement. Lucia told me she broke up with her last boyfriend because of one remark he made. He had said, "Oh, I like animals, too—

especially pork chops and spareribs."

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As Dave was maneuvering the car on a winding road, Lucia spotted a puppy lying by the side of the road.

The poor pup, spilling blood from its head, had obviously been hit by a car. But, knowing how late they were and how important the business meeting was to Dave, Lucia closed her eyes and hesitated to say anything. She felt the car slowing to a stop. When she opened her eyes, she saw Dave staring at the puppy with a stricken look on his face. At that moment, Lucia knew she was starting to fall in love with him. When he suggested they stop and take the puppy to a veterinarian, that clinched it.

Studies show it's not the number of similar attitudes that creates a deep sense of closeness. It's the intensity of one or two. Lucia didn't care that Dave didn't feel the same way about a lot of other things.

However, animal rights was very close to her heart.

Gentlemen, don't leave an aspect this crucial to chance. Seek out a subject that is important to the woman you want to make fall for you. Bring it up.

Listen to her opinions, and then wholeheartedly agree with her. In fact, give off hints that you feel eve n more deeply about it than she does. It is an aphrodisiac for a woman when you can intelligently discuss one or two issues that are vital to her.

It isn't always necessary to have deep discussions with your Quarry to show you