Brain on Porn (Social #1) - DeYtH Banger (uplifting book club books .txt) 📗

Give Up

 

Rather than feeling nervous or worried about moments like this, maybe it’s time to be confident for the next time you get hit…realizing you really are on the path to learning how to do this!

 

If turning away feels challenging, it’s helpful to remember that this is also about turning toward what you really want. In other posts, we’ve touched on anchors—people, passions, and purpose—and what you love more than porn.

As you learn the skill of bouncing your eyes and turning away, don’t fall apart in a moment where you mess up.

Learn from it.  And turn back to the life you really want.

Again and again.  Sooner or later, that habit will become stronger than whatever else has been driving you.

We’re rooting for you!

 

 

 

(Note: So that happen....

 

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Something motivated you to go in your room... something in your mind strike to start a porn video and after few you are on... your TV Was on... and your computer monitor was on... and what next was  comming on the way... was from a result of a thought.)

 

 

 

 

 How You Can Help Unmask The Porn Industry’s Dirty Secret

 

 

One reason porn has spread across the world is that its core “message” is so attractive. It goes something like this:  “No matter what you’re feeling or facing, come join the fun! Why waste time with the dreariness of normal life, when you can join in so much happiness and good times with simple click of a mouse?”

 

If that were all true, it would be pretty hard to resist accessing all of that with a simple click. Pretty no-brainer, right?
Maybe that’s why the industry works so hard to convince people this is all true— “preaching” the message that porn is all about happiness and fun.

 

Unmasking the Industry’s Secret

 

From the outside, pornography certainly looks like a fantasy world of pleasure and thrills with participants seeming to experience constant bliss and rapture at the highest of levels.

But check out how one porn star described her experience of working in this[the] “industry of pleasure”:
“I got the *&%$ [crap] kicked out of me . . . most of the girls start crying because they’re hurting so bad . . . I couldn’t breathe. I was being hit and choked. I was really upset and they didn’t stop. They kept filming. [I asked them to turn the camera off] and they kept going.”

 

Wow. Really? That sounds extreme. Maybe this is an exception—just one bad porn studio?

Or maybe it’s not.

You wouldn’t believe how many personal e-mails we’ve received from former porn stars confirming what we’re about to tell you. One participant of pornography films told us that she had personally witnessed “victims and survivors who have been drugged and forced into this ugliness against their will” adding, “I realize that this statement flies in the face of the mainstream … mentality that porn is voluntary and that ‘she likes it,’ ‘she asked for it’,  ‘she chose it.’  Although that may be true for some, many are coerced into agreeing with whatever their [agent or pimp] says just to stay alive. We have been humiliated beyond description and carry that with us 24/7. Our minds are numbed and, in many cases, drugged into stupor…for the painful [use of] our bodies…to be filmed.”

 

A Trend of Violence and Exploitation

 

Let’s be very clear—this person is not an unusual, isolated case. This kind of experience shows up over and over and over in the industry—and not just in “fringe” porn. In fact, an analysis at the University of Arkansas of 50 best-selling adult videos showed that 88% of scenes showed aggression towards women – and in many cases physical aggression and violence.
One woman told us: “The abuse that goes on in this industry is completely ridiculous. The way [people] are treated is totally sick … I left due to the trauma I experienced…[after being] beaten half to death.”

So if porn hurts people this bad, why would people ever get involved in the first place?

For some of the actors and actresses, they are told this is their ticket to high-class living and even celebrity status. Once they start filming and getting involved, that’s when the forcing starts. Many former porn stars talk about being booked to do a scene only to have conditions changed on the spot, which often led to horrific experiences with brutal, unprotected sex.
In order to prevent the police and the public from finding out about these situations, we’ve been told that it’s common for agents or pimps or employers to use intimidation or blackmail as weapons to silence the participants. They also crop out the especially severe physical and emotional pain actors experience.

 

Doctors are also employed by the industry to “watch over” the actors and actresses – and prescribe whatever they need to numb out and suppress the pain.  Former participants told us:

“It’s an empty lifestyle trying to fill up a void…. Seventy-five percent [of porn stars] . . . are using drugs. They have to numb themselves to go on set. The more you work, the more you have to numb yourself.”

 

Understanding the Magnitude of Global Slavery and Trafficking

 

You might be thinking, “OK, so if it’s really this bad, why would anyone stay involved?”

This is where it starts to get shocking to the point of almost being unbelievable. But we need to talk about this…
By now, you’ve almost certainly heard of human trafficking- the trading of actual human beings who are coerced or forced into a literal modern slavery for different reasons – including and especially for sexual purposes.

It’s hard for most people to understand how something like this can exist in the modern world. Didn’t we get rid of slavery in most parts of the world a long time ago? Sadly, rather than fading into history, sex trafficking only seems to be growing. The overall human trafficking problem is estimated by the United Nations to be a $32 billion per-year industry that ensnares many millions of people around the world—including young boys and girls. The majority of trafficking victims (79%) are exploited sexually in different ways, including being forced into doing porn.

When these individuals experience pain in the filming, their lives are often threatened if they show pain on camera. So they are again forced to make it look like they are enjoying what they are doing.

 

You Can Make A Difference

 

If this is where the pain stopped, it would be bad enough. But think for a moment about how many people who end up watching a video like this decide to try it out with vulnerable people in their own lives. I mean, let’s stop pretending it’s a mystery where some of this abuse is coming from.

 

Of course, not everyone in the industry experiences these same awful things. And obviously yes – for some, it is a conscious decision to get into the porn industry. But what about those who did not choose this life?
What are we going to do about them?

How about this:  let’s stop fueling this horrific problem.  Rather than spending another day or hour or minute supporting this industry, let’s take a stand and do whatever it takes—for as long as it takes—to say goodbye forever to a system that is literally destroying and enslaving human lives all around the world.

Let’s do this. It’s too important to ignore.

 

Note: People don't give a weak a chance... they give to the most strongest people.

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School is a aggressor, stressor

 

 

Securing Your Home Base In the Fight Against Porn

 

Have you ever played the game Sim City, where you’re the supreme ruler?  Well, it’s up to you what happens with your imaginary world when it comes to food, trade, employment, development, and all sorts of other stuff.

Imagine, though, just for a moment, if the game took a turn to the dark side and your new mission was to create a society that sets people up for addiction. And just for fun, let’s be more specific and focus on pornography addiction.  Are you up for it? Okay, let’s do this:

First of all, let’s remove as many barriers as possible finding a way to make porn free and quickly available in every single home. Even better—how about portable access wherever people go?

Second, let’s surround people (especially young people) with messages that make porn seem completely normal—even healthy!

And above all, we’ve got to find ways to discourage people from connecting on a deeper, emotional level.  That could ruin our plan, so we’ve got to do whatever it takes to make them avoid real intimacy.

 

This Game Is Real

 

Well, the thing about this “game,” as you’ve probably noticed, is that this isn’t actually a game. The society we currently live in is setting people up to struggle with pornography.

Now if that’s true, then maybe it’s not about you or me being weak? In fact, you’ve got to be pretty strong to rebel against a force sweeping so many people away, right? Instead of just fighting inner weakness, then, maybe we should ask: how are we going to live well in this world? Even if nothing changes in the larger society around us, are there ways to counteract or even neutralize surrounding influences so we can live the lives we really want?

The Battle Starts at Home

 

The environment immediately around us—our own home—is, in most cases, something we have more influence over. What happens, though, when the places that are supposed to be our safe-havens have become compromised?

Everyone needs places of real safety. No army, however it tough may be, has ever won a war without places of refuge and rejuvenation. Like a smoker trying to quit in a house of smokers, it’s hard to find real freedom from this stuff when you’re surrounded by sexualized media all the time.

If your army had been infiltrated with spies, your first question would be: How are they getting in? Where are we vulnerable to future attacks?

In the battle against porn, you can ask a similar question: How has porn infiltrated your home now or in the past? What kind of triggers surround us on a daily basis?

Make Specific Goals

 

Start by making an inventory of what’s going on around you day by day—the people and situations surrounding yourself at school or work or home. By knowing the details and patterns of your life,  you can discover where you are vulnerable. Although it’s nice to believe that ‘we’re strong enough,’ this is about being aware of our limitations– that for instance, you may not be someone who can spend lots of time surfing the internet randomly.

Based on this, you can then work to create a firewall between you and porn – and we mean more than just a technological firewall. This includes your set of rules, practices and routines that make your living environments—especially your home-base— start to “work for you.”

One individual decided his bedroom would become a “screen-free zone” without cell phones, computer or a TV allowed.  He told us, “It just creates a safe space in your house and whenever you’re anxious, stressed, tired, you can retreat to your bedroom and not worry about relapsing there.” He said it was a game changer for him, and added that it also helped him sleep better.

 

Do Whatever It Takes

 

It would be easy to make a half-hearted effort at this—but we’re encouraging you to give this a real shot. Imagine for a moment having a broken door at home, the same door where you’ve been attacked over and over. How committed do you think you would be to fixing that door and installing deadbolts and security systems?

You may have to be bold in our efforts to stop the porn infestation in your home, being brutally honest with yourself about your own home-turf vulnerabilities. Are you willing to make some hard choices—like moving computers into public places or removing chatting software? How about getting rid of a friend or switching jobs?And if there’s porn in your home right now, are you willing to destroy it?

Compared to the “ah, I can handle it” attitude, this is about a new awareness of our limitations and how much we can face before we’re overcome.  That knowledge allows us to