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that you could be spending talking about that grizzly bear wrestling show you both like so much.

There you have it — how not to annoy women. And, as any woman will tell you, not being annoying goes a long way to romantic success.

 

 

 

 

Ways To Screw Up A First Kiss

 

 

Copping a feel

 

Unless it has been made quite clear that the first kiss is the beginning of a booty call, you should keep your hands to yourself. Grabbing her ass or squeezing a breast is absolutely unacceptable and one of the fastest ways to screw up a first kiss. If you have to touch her, try cupping her face with your hands or wrapping your arms around her in an intimate (but innocent) hug. Consider any areas more intimate than that to be no-go zones for the time being.

Having bad breathThis one is common sense. If your breath stinks, the first kiss may be your last. Don’t go overboard on the breath fresheners (pulling out the breath spray as you walk her to her door is corny and presumptuous), but do make sure that the smell and taste of your mouth isn’t offensive in any way. Take advantage of the after-dinner mint or pop in a piece of gum (but take it out before the kiss).

Drooling and stubble

 

When you pull away from the first kiss, your date should not have to wipe the saliva (or any other substances) off her face. Keep the drool under control and make sure to wipe your nose beforehand. Also, a woman’s delicate face should not be subjected to the sandpaper texture of your facial hair, so don’t press your face to hers before considering exactly how clean shaven you are. Your 5 o’clock shadow may look sexy, but it might not feel that way to her soft cheeks.
a kiss is just a kissNot all kisses are created equal, but if you follow AM’s advice, you’ll have a better chance of impressing her with the first one so that you can ensure there are many more kisses to follow.

 

 

 

 

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Why Pickup Culture Is Dead

 

 

 

 

 

Back in 2001, a writer named Neil Strauss introduced a controversial book called The Game that detailed the inner workings of the “pickup subculture.” It told the story of fraternity-esque mansions where guys would go to learn the art of hooking up with women.

 

"Negging," magic tricks, peacocking were just a few of the tactics employed to reduce a woman to a level to where she would be primed to pick up and take home. It served as a bible for thousands of guys who always had trouble winning over women.

The manifesto was an impetus that sparked an entire industry around picking up women. A simple YouTube search for “how to pick up women” reveals a slew of different tutorials and “in the field” examples of successful “sets” and “closings.”

Entire businesses were built around it. Bootcamps exist in most every major city where you can fly in for a three- or four-day workshop for hands-on education and experience.

 

Now, to some extent, I find value in this. The culture encouraged shy guys to get out there, to be confident, and to take their love life into their own hands. As an introvert, I can relate to guys that have a hard time getting out there and meeting girls.

But it's something that treats women like a problem you can solve or "hack" rather than real human beings. And on top of that, it also devalues you because it has no authenticity. Tactics like pre-meditated one-liners, peacocking your wardrobe with a giant belt buckle, or slighting women to bring their confidence down a peg or two just isn’t something that is natural or genuine to who you are. At least, I hope it’s not!

 

Women are wise to these tactics now, too. What women want today is a guy who is real.  For the majority of women there’s nothing more attractive than a guy who is confident (but not cocky) with himself. It’s the subtle art of not giving a f*ck about what anyone thinks of you, staying true to yourself, and doing it with a genuinely positive approach to life.

 

This type of authentic confidence should come from a place of personal completeness. People who come by this naturally are good just by themselves. They don’t need anything else to complete them. Some guys seek sex, relationships, fame, and money to fill a void that will make them feel complete. Girls can smell that kind of guy a mile away. What they really respect and go for is a guy who’s true to himself.

So what does all this mean for you when you're out there trying to meet new women, whether it's at a bar or club, or on an online dating site or app? 

 

Rather than roll in with a canned pickup line, try instead just to be your natural self. Say what you feel. Listen genuinely. Do it with a smile. Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. If you’re confident in who you are, that will go the longest way in getting some solid attention from like-minded women

 

So, if you’re coming off of a breakup, looking to get back out there, resist the temptation to succumb to these pickup practices. Focus on getting right with yourself, rebuilding your confidence, and discovering what makes you a unique badass. Then your natural swagger will take over and it will be palpable when you walk in the room. The right girl for you will sense it before even talking to you.

 

 

Stay away from the typical rules of “the game.” It’s a lose-lose proposition these days, and there are much better ways to engage with women.

Chapter 4 - FVG (Part 4)

 P.S.: Probably deep here down... there is something... but what... not sure.

 

 

How To Discuss Having A Threesome

 

 

 

 

It's a phantom thought that has occurred to most people in a long-term relationship: What if we had a threesome? That super sexy scene from that movie I watched last week — could I recreate that with my girlfriend? It's the ultimate fantasy, but it's definitely not an easy thing to bring up with the person you're dating! Here are some tips you can use to ensure that the dreaded Threesome Conversation goes smoothly.

 

1. Don't Bring It Up As A Way To 'Spice Up' The Relationship

 

"So, things have felt a bit dull lately, and I had this idea…" is almost always a terrible opener. It's true that long-term relationships have boring phases, but pointing this out to your partner will only hurt their feelings! Nobody wants to feel that they're a boring or inadequate partner.

 

You: "Don't you think our sex life is getting boring of late? What if we tried having a threesome?

Her: "Are you saying I'm not enough for you? Wow, I can't believe you want to have sex with other women."

This is exactly what you want to avoid: a terrible argument because your girlfriend misunderstood your point. Instead of commenting on the current state of your relationship, try floating the idea in abstract. "What do you think of threesomes?" is a good general question for your girlfriend. Sound her out on the topic before suggesting a threesome as a boring-relationship cure.

 

2. Ask Her What — And Who — She'd Be Comfortable With

 

She thinks it's an interesting idea, great. But it's still a joint venture. Don't dictate the terms of the threesome, or independently plan it. Don't think of it as 'getting my girlfriend's permission to fuck somebody else.'

You: You know that girl Maria who works at my gym? I was thinking — you could ask Maria. She might be down for it.

Her: Do you have a crush on Maria? No way. No way am I OK with that.

 

Listen, this is probably a big deal for your girlfriend. Bringing another person into the intimacy of your bedroom is a big deal, so ask her what kind of threesome she would like to have. (Spoiler alert: It may not look like the PornHub video that you're expecting.)

You: If it did ever happen someday, how would you picture it? What would you like to happen?

Is there something that she's fantasized about in this context? She might want to have a threesome with another woman, or maybe a man. Maybe she would be comfortable with a lesbian in the mix, while you watched. There's a wide range of threesomes that one can have, and you should be prepared to discuss whatever she wants! The golden rule is that both of you should be having fun at all times. Frame it as the two of you having sex with a stranger, not you having sex with two women.

 

3. Don't Discuss It As A Concrete Event

 

You: How about I make a Tinder bio for us and say we're looking for a threesome, maybe next week?

This is bad because a) it's a lot of pressure and b) it makes it seem like this is something you've been trying to sneakily plan on your own for a while. Be casual and chill about it: Don't rush your girlfriend. The more pressure you put on her, the more likely she is to freak out and shut the idea down immediately.

 

Indicate that it's not something that needs to happen — it's just a thought that might be fun to act upon someday, if the circumstances were right. (In fact, it may be more useful as fantasy fodder that gets you both turned on in the present.) Treat it as a distant possibility, not as a scheduled conference call that you have to make right away.

 

4. Be Ready To Deal With Feelings Of Jealousy

 

Threesomes are tricky because they bring up lots of complicated emotions: primarily, jealousy. Your girlfriend's nightmare scenario is that you might ignore her during the threesome, and focus on the other girl. And what if the sex made you realize that you liked the other girl more?

That would be difficult for anybody to handle: Luckily, you can forestall this by assuring her of her importance to you. If she makes comments that seem irrational or hostile to you, don't get angry. Be understanding. Don't brush aside or dismiss her concerns; instead, remind her that she's the priority here:

You: I love you, I love our sex life, and I brought this up purely because it might be fun to do together some day. But of course, only if we're on the same page. You're the most important part of it- I wouldn't want anything if you weren't involved or excited about it.

Once she knows that she's the priority (and not the hot stranger you're planning to bone), she'll likely be much more relaxed and open to the idea.

 

5. Do It For The Right Reasons (And Remember, It Might Not Be As Sexy As It Sounds)

 

In movies and TV, threesomes rarely rock the boat. Couples always seem to be having hot-and-heavy threesomes with a stranger who leaves the next morning.

Unfortunately, threesomes in real life are much more complicated — and can leave you both with a host of new relationship issues. That's why you shouldn't use a threesome as the gateway for you to fuck that cute girl in your building. That kind of move could torpedo your relationship.

The truth about threesomes is this: Ensuring that two separate people get off (without making anyone feel excluded) is a Herculean task. So, don't bring