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Use teasing instead. Playfully tease her in a cocky way, but don’t neg her. And even with cocky teasing, I wouldn’t do it on a sweet girl.


I would only do it on a girl with a big ego that’s acting arrogantly.


It’s a myth that you need to be cocky with the most beautiful women to knock them off their pedestal.


I’ve known perfect 10s that were really sweet women. There is no need to tease them in a cocky way.


Only if she’s displaying arrogance or spoiled princess behavior should you use cocky teasing. But never ever use NEGGING.


 4. AMOGing

 

 

AMOGing = Polar Opposing Insecurity Compensation (POIC) In Action

AMOG stands for Alpha Male Other Guy. AMOGing is a verb created by the PUA community that means that you’ll out-alpha another guy. Basically, it means you’ll be ridiculing your male competition.


For example, a PUA is going to talk to a girl who’s with a guy. The PUA will AMOG the guy by saying something like “Hey, nice shirt, bro”in a tone to ridicule the other guy.


Here’s how a quality woman will perceive you: she’ll see you as a guy with low self-esteem.


Here’s what to do instead.


If you were to go talk to a woman who is in the company of another man, just start talking to the man in a friendly way and ask him questions, like…


“How are you doing?”, “Where are you from?”, etc. At a certain moment in the interaction, ask him if she’s his girlfriend. If he says yes, then ask her if it’s true.

If she confirms, leave it there. If she says he’s not her boyfriend, you can just talk to her.


This will show her you are a really confident guy with good, solid self-esteem instead of some scared little boy who uses POIC behavior.


 5. Not Buying Women Drinks

 

Now, this is the most ridiculous thing ever.


But I get where it comes from. It comes from the pickup line, “You are beautiful. Can I buy you a drink?” Now, of course, that’s totally wrong.


And, of course, if you approach a woman and she says, “Why don’t you buy me a drink?”then it’s also wrong to do it.


Because it positions you as the guy who wants to buy her love, or the guy she can make jump through her hoops.


But PUAs take this to the extreme, and it backfires on quality women.


They will be talking to a woman and they will finish their glass, and then order something for themselves without asking if she wants something to drink.


Now, this is plain stupid. And a quality woman will see you as a cheap guy without any class.


If you talk to a woman and you see she’s into you, be a gentleman and buy her a drink. It’s totally fine.


When you take her out on a date, it’s absolutely fine for you to pay for the drinks.


Although I advocate against taking women to dinner on a first date, or even on a second date.


But if you take her to a restaurant on a third date, then it’s absolutely fine to pay for the dinner. Be a man. Take the lead. There’s nothing wrong with that.


 6. The Three-Second Rule

 

 

 

The Three-Second Rule Will Drain Your Energy As An Introvert.

This is also a classic.


Although it can be helpful in some cases, in most cases it has the opposite effect.


The Three-Second Rule states that when you see a woman that you like, you need to approach her within three seconds of seeing her.


If you do this, you won’t give that little voice in your head the time to talk you out of it. And it does have some value.


But in most cases, you’re better off waiting and demonstrating some value in her peripheral field.


Here’s how you do it.


Most guys will stand with their glass close to their chest and look into the venue like predators waiting for prey.


If, instead, you truly interact with your friends and have fun with them, you’ll stand out. She’ll notice you. You’ll be building value in her eyes.


She’ll probably start giving you some approach invitations, like making eye contact with you, smiling, etc.


In most cases, it’s much better to first build value like this and wait a little while before you approach her. You’ll get a higher success rate.


Also, as an introvert, you don’t want to approach every woman you see. It would drain your energy. You’ll want to be a bit more strategic about your approaches.


Don’t always follow the three-second rule. Sometimes it’s good to approach immediately, but sometimes you should be a bit more strategic about it.


Also, if you use the three-second rule, you’ll constantly be approaching women.


High-quality women will notice that, and you’ll be labeled as THAT guy that spam-approaches all women. It’s social suicide. She’ll see you as a loser who’s not used to having women in his life.


Because a man that’s truly successful with women, AKA a man with abundance, wouldn’t feel the need to constantly approach women like this.


 7. Being The Loud Obnoxious Guy

 

 

 

As a smart, introverted man, this is definitely not your style. And you should avoid it like the plague.

Many new-style PUAs adopt the style of being the loud, obnoxious guy.


You’ve probably seen some very popular YouTube videos about some big company using this style. I’m not going to say names here, but chances are you know what company I’m talking about.


And yes, you’ll see them making out with women. But you’ll also note WHAT kind of women they’re making out with… low-quality women. We attract what we are.


As a smart, introverted man, this is definitely not your style. And you should avoid it like the plague.


Plus, here’s how a quality woman judges this POIC behavior: “This must be a very insecure, shy guy on the inside if he has to overcompensate like this”.


 8. The Overly Aggressive, Taking-What’s-Mine Attitude

 

 

 

What quality women think of this: “This guy must be a weak, scared little boy inside if he overcompensates by acting this physically aggressive”.

This is also a style that some PUAs use and promote. And if you’ve been reading about dating advice for just a little bit, than you’ve probably seen this overly aggressive style in action.


It’s all about aggressive physical escalation: See girl. Grab girl. Escalate. Be overly aggressive.


Again, I’m not going to name the company’s name, but one of their instructors, according to Wikipedia, has been formally banned from entering Australia, the United Kingdom, and Singapore because of his overly aggressive and misogynistic behavior toward women.


Does this style work?


Yes, it will work on low-value women that have no self-respect.


However, as a thoughtful introverted man, you prefer high-quality women instead.


Here’s how quality women see this kind of overly aggressive, taking-what’s-mine behavior : “This guy must be a weak, scared little boy inside if he overcompensates by acting this physically aggressive”.


 Conclusion

 

The PUA approach doesn’t work to attract quality women, and it makes your insecurities worse.


That’s because most PUA mindsets and techniques are coming from a Polar Opposing Insecurity Complex (POIC).


POIC occurs when a person focuses on something he doesn’t want to be because that behavior makes him feel insecure.


So he becomes the polar opposite of the behavior that makes him insecure. Sadly, it only makes his inner insecurity worse.


Quality women can see right through this.


Even though they might not know what POIC is, they instinctively and instantly spot this behavior and understand it’s coming from a place of insecurity.


Also, PUA techniques don’t work for smart, introverted men because they go against your deepest nature.


Now that I’ve shared the eight biggest mistakes the PUA community teaches, you need to get an education on what works for smart, introverted men.


You need to learn what attracts high-quality women… and the right things to do get dates with them and take it to the next level.


If you are starting to realize how important it is to get your dating life handled, then you need a WORLD-CLASS education that works for smart, introverted men. 

 

 

 

 

 

WARNING: Are You Killing Your Confidence With THIS Mistaken Mindset?

 

 

 

 

You’ve tried…

You’ve put yourself out there and tried talking to new people.

You’ve smiled, listened, and were interested.

But you’re still not getting the response you want. You’re not quite feeling the connection.

I mean, maybe you do alright talking sometimes, but then someone else enters the conversation and immediately has everyone’s attention. It seems they effortlessly have charm and wit and confidence.

It can make you feel worthless.

You might think, “what’s the point?” Because it seems others are so much more effective than you socially. And that you’ll never compare.

Are you just doing something wrong?

Well, maybe.

But it’s likely not what you think.

There’s a simple fix though if you are, and anyone can do it.

 

Get Realistic About Improving Socially

I find many people have an unrealistic mindset about becoming charming and confident.

They feel it should be easy.

Even instant.

And I don’t know, maybe that’s because of marketing. There’s so many bogus promises of overnight results.

I think another part of it is, being social is such a basic human function. Belonging and being liked is close to food and shelter on our hierarchy of needs.

 

It’s a pretty basic desire.

So it feels like our social ability should come natural and effortlessly.

But that’s not how it works.

 

Social skills are a skill like any other; they take time to develop.

People who are great socially today are only that way because they’ve been practicing their skills all along. Since they were kids even.

So you need to KILL the mindset you should be able to instantly be as charming and outgoing as others. Before it kills your confidence and motivation to improve.

Push Forward Despite Feeling Discouraged

The secret is to keep trying even though it feels you’re failing.

It’s about persistence. And the great thing about that is, anyone can be persistent.

Even you.

But you must to decide to work from where you are.

Those other people who are so great socially, they’ve had completely different life circumstances than you. It’s not realistic to compare yourself to them.

 

Comparing yourself to others like that only discourages you.

Besides, just because someone else may be better than you socially, that doesn’t mean you can’t also do well.

Take McDonald’s for example.

 

They are the most successful burger joint in the U.S. Probably the world right? Does that mean Burger King isn’t killing it financially?

Of course they are.

They’re still making billions of dollars despite not being quote unquote the best.

But let’s take it a step further.

Maybe there’s a mom and pop burger joint in your town and there’s also a McDonalds. Does that mean the mom and pop joint can’t be successful?

No of course not.

People will like the small burger joint because it’s different. It’s cozy. It’s locally owned.

What I’m trying to say is, just because someone else is more successful than you or better socially, that doesn’t mean you can’t also succeed socially.

It doesn’t mean you’re worthless.

That’s bad logic. It doesn’t follow at all.

 

 

People will still like you for who you are even if they also like someone else more outgoing. Because they’re going to like you for completely different reasons than those other people.

 

This is otherwise known as the abundance mentality. There’s plenty of love and acceptance to go around in the world.

Decide To Stick It Out Till You Improve

Besides the skills of others intimidating you, you might just get discouraged in general. Because you’ll feel like you have so far to go and you’ll never get there.

You’ll have this ideal in your head of the social rockstar you want to be, but your abilities won’t match up to that at first.

You just have to remind yourself, you get there bit by bit.

In the beginning, the things you’re working on and maybe not doing so hot at, even those